We had been chatting about
7 months , phone, Skype, and fell in love. I had recently separated from my husband and had not planned on meeting someone, but I did. We met after communicating for 7 months in person , (we live 7 hours apart) because I had insecurities about
my body, brought on in my marriage.
I never told him that was the reason I was delaying meeting in person. when we finally did, we spent the weekend together and had a good time. I did feel however, that something had changed after we met in person...that he was acting a little different with me.
I asked him about
it, if anything was bothering him and he kept saying he was fine. Then he said that he was having a bad month because he was thinking about
certain events in his life that were painful. In my mind I said, why not tell me that like he had in the past? He told me I was the only one that was ever able to calm him down when he was having a breakdown and suddenly he can't
open up to me? (we are in our mid 40's).
He has been married twice and has 2 kids that live in other states with his exes....it is hard on him not seeing his kids....I even offered to move to one of the states so he could be closer to one of his kids, but he said he did not want to go back to that state.
So feeling all of this, him pulling away after we met, I made the mistake of telling him I needed time to figure things out and that we should take a break. That was my mistake and because of that he said we were done, that I was shutting down on him and he did nothing to deserve that.
He called me a few days later to see how I was doing , if I was okay and he said he thought I was going to go see him in person. I said I wanted to , but I was afraid he would not want to see me. Then I heard nothing for 5days. wanting to make this better and hoping talking to him in person would let him see how I just needed time and that I was not breaking up with him.
I messaged him saying I would show him how much I loved him in the next few days. He said you better not be coming down here, you should have checked with me first. This angered him and he called me to say we were definetly done now because I was going to come down there without telling him. The pain is raw, I feel like I will have a mental breakdown....It was a mistake asking for some time, I know that now, I just never thought it would lead to a breakup. I am devastated
Post Edited (rome) : 2/22/2018 11:22:08 AM (GMT-7)