I think it's great that you've tried writing here (and perhaps elsewhere).
My wife also ended our relationship a few years ago...(since then, we divorced and remarried and then she's left again)
So, in a nutshell, I understand more or less the panic and anguish you're facing...
Your bf sounds a lot like my wife...hence he probably has undiagnosed Bipolar or some relevant disorder.
I will be frank. To have a sustainable relationship for any length of time...and I'm not talking about
forever(perhaps a year or two, a decade or two; who knows what God has in mind), he MUST be diagnosed and then be either on medication and/or perhaps ECT, depending on how severe his condition is...
Mania, if I don't remember wrongly, is more severe than hypomania...so if it's mania, you're in for a rough ride.
Still, hang on to the railings and don't fall off!
1. If you want to pursue this long-term, you must try your very best, your utmost, to persuade him to obtain a diagnosis from the MH hospital and relevant meds. Otherwise, don't even think about
this long-term. Without meds, his moods will be unpredictable indefinitely.
2. How much do you love him? Is he the only one for you for the rest of your life? Cos' for me, my wife is. And I'm willing to go the distance for her. Are you willing to go for him? In his lucid state, how does he feel about
you? If he feels the same way, then hang in there and pray the hardest you've ever had to God...and maybe it might work out.
I offer you no hope, just perhaps a tiny sliver of it because this will be a rollercoaster for the rest of your life. With meds, it's less of a rollercoaster...more of a ride on a sandy beach on a sunny day, with the occasional lovely seagulls, together with the obnoxious black crows...
Since you say you really love this man, then you already know what to do.
Post Edited (Clarkie) : 6/2/2019 6:51:40 AM (GMT-6)