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Should You Forgive Your Victimizer?

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MainerMikeBrown
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Posted 10/12/2019 1:22 PM (GMT -6)
Many people with bipolar disorder have experienced trauma in their lives caused by a victimizer, myself included.

If you're a trauma survivor, should you forgive or try to forgive your abuser?

In my opinion, nobody has the right to tell you that you should or shouldn't forgive your victimizer. I think that should be left up to you.

I will say this, however. If you do decide to forgive your abuser, do it because it benefits you. Do it because you want to be happy and have a desire to move on with your life the best you can.
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Sometimes i am me (HT)...
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Posted 10/12/2019 6:55 PM (GMT -6)
I did foegive. It helped me heal and hopefully the perpetrator as well. For me it was holding onto something that i not needed. What happened to me is just an asoect of me....forgiving was in my control and my compassion for self. HT
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MainerMikeBrown
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Posted 12/2/2019 3:44 PM (GMT -6)
I'm glad that forgiving has helped you as much as it has, HT. Being able to move on from past trauma is a big deal.
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Sometimes i am me (HT)...
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Posted 12/3/2019 2:15 AM (GMT -6)
Cheers mm. Means a lot. Keep strong. HT
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Posted 12/3/2019 7:24 AM (GMT -6)
I don't know if it is as necessary to forgive as it is to acknowledge the incident. Some things are hard to forgive. I understand it helps you to move on but I think acknowledging helps just as well. Just knowing it wasn't your fault.

Hugs, Karen...
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