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Barcode
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Posted 4/25/2020 5:32 AM (GMT -7)
I have a question about bipolar and the use of meds to treat it

Someone I greatly care about is diagnosed as bipolar 1.. from the time I've known them they have been on a combination of drugs that included abilafy Klonopin and Lamotrigine.. these have all been being prescribed by a nurse practitioner and hasn't seen a psychiatrist or therapist in some time.

Over the past year I have noticed many of changes finding out through that time that they discontinued taking their Klonopin out of the blue and to my knowledge no longer is taking the abilafy as well just leaving them the Lamotrigine.

Over this time I have witnessed self destructive behaviors.. a lot of lying.. saying things deep and meaningful only to turn around a few days later to discredit it all.

I'm not completely naive about bipolar and the episodes it can bring.. I've noticed few where they deny it and a day or two later tell me their manic.

But my question is how much does playing Dr with one's own meds effect someone with bipolar or not keeping up with actual Drs and therapy play in the mood changes and behaviors cause I'm loosing a good friend over the stress of it all.

Any input I would deeply appreciate
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Posted 4/25/2020 8:29 AM (GMT -7)
Hi Barcode,

Welcome to the bi-polar forum. I am not bi-polar myself so I am not much help but wanted to welcome you to the forum. There will be others on soon with advice. Keep your chin up. I know it is hard but it will be getting better.

Hugs, Karen...
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Posted 4/25/2020 8:38 AM (GMT -7)
Thank you Karen

I deal with a TBI (possible CTE) and severe PTSD myself.. that has been exacerbated by all that I've been dealing with.. I have some knowledge of bipolar but feel I'm in deeper water than I'm used to with all this.
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Posted 4/25/2020 10:56 AM (GMT -7)
I have noticed bi-polar people seem to enjoy the mania at times, though usually it is followed by depression. And I know abilify is a mood stabilizer. I take it myself. Maybe they are discontinuing the medications that stop the mania. The klonopin (sp) is a benzo so it should relax them. At least they are taking the other med. But I think it sounds like they need the abilify.

We can't make people take their meds but we can let them know it is important to us that they feel well.

I wish you the best.

Hugs, Karen...
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Posted 4/25/2020 12:23 PM (GMT -7)
Barcode:

It’s good that you’re looking out after this person. Most people don’t have that.

You said this person has been diagnosed as Bipolar I. As a bipolar I myself (with the full mania), these people can be hard to work with.

1. Drugs.com says Abilify is an anti-psychotic…used to treat psychotic conditions such as schizophrenia and bipolar I disorder and is also used together with other medicines to treat major depressive disorder in adults.
2. Klonopin it says is a benzodiazepine, and can be habit forming.
(drugs.com says it is in the same group as Xanax and Librium, tranquilizers)
3. Lamotrigine is an anti-epileptic medication also used to delay mood episodes in adults with bipolar disorder.

If they are just taking the Lamotrigine, does it stop or slow down the mania? Does it reduce or take away the depression?

You say, “Over the past year I have noticed many of changes finding out through that time that they discontinued taking their Klonopin out of the blue and to my knowledge no longer is taking the abilafy as well just leaving them the Lamotrigine.”

You said, “Over this time I have witnessed self destructive behaviors.. a lot of lying.. saying things deep and meaningful only to turn around a few days later to discredit it all.”

“I'm not completely naive about bipolar and the episodes it can bring.. I've noticed few where they deny it and a day or two later tell me their manic.”

“But my question is how much does playing Dr with one's own meds effect someone with bipolar or not keeping up with actual Drs and therapy play in the mood changes and behaviors cause I'm loosing a good friend over the stress of it all.”

You said, “these have all been being prescribed by a nurse practitioner and hasn't seen a psychiatrist or therapist in some time.”

Is there a psychiatrist that you can see? It sounds like this person could benefit from seeing one, and then taking their medicines. And making return visits to the psychiatrist.

Can you look up on the net and see if there are any psychiatrists in your area that you can see? You can also look on the net for Mental Health Clinics in your city.

Such clinics usually have a sliding scale for pay, which goes all the way down to zero if you can’t afford to pay.

If so, can you call one of these places and see if you can get an appointment? If so, check with this person to see if that is alright with them, and if so, make an appointment?

You’re on the right track. You may be just a phone call away from help.
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Posted 4/25/2020 1:08 PM (GMT -7)
Thank you Tim Tam

They had been without insurance for a bit of time until recently.

Last year a drug issue arouse with them, they went and binged hundreds of dollars on drugs in a single day.. I know if I hadn't been there their life would be one that I don't think ANYBODY would want to choose in their life.

During this I reached out to agencies like you were referring to and we're wanting for them to come in but they didn't want to go that route.. I even offered to go to meetings like NA with her and maybe that could help in some way but they didn't want to do that as well.. they were set on getting through it on their own so I did all I could really do and be a support for them

Thinking back I believe that was about the time or shortly thereafter that Klonopin had been self taken out of the meds they had been on.

I was around a week or two ago when they finally had a video appointment with their primary. Their primary didn't feel comfortable prescribing psych meds and refered them for a psychiatrist which has not happened yet to my knowledge.

We had a disagreement at the start of the week and I have been getting the silent treatment since and no issues have been spoken about.

I've told them that I feel that they are in some type of mania and I've been right about it before just from the signals I have been able to pick up on.

I cant strong arm them to go or to be honest about what's going on but I see them tailspining in front of me and I just keep hoping they pull out of it or I see a chute deploy and they ask for help but I don't see ether happing and it's breaking my heart and destroying our friendship.
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Posted 4/25/2020 1:53 PM (GMT -7)
That is really sad Barcode. It sounds like your friend has an issue with drugs. But you can only do so much. They have to want to stop. And if they don't want to they wont. Especially if they can get them easily. I am sorry you are going through this. I hope your friend knows how much you care about them. And I hope that they decide that they want to stop.

Can you tell this person that their behavior is destroying your friendship? I don't mean like giving them an ultimatum, just let them know how you feel? You said they were giving you a silent treatment but eventually they will talk I am sure.

I wish you the best. I am glad you are posting.

Hugs, Karen...
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Posted 4/25/2020 2:11 PM (GMT -7)
To my knowledge the drug usage has stopped to the best of my knowledge and the person who was helping has been also cut out of her life.

With that issue I did give an ultimatum.. that she cut them out of her life or I was going to do it for them and not in a way that was going to be pleasant for that individual.

I'm not a violent person by nature but this is a woman with 4 kids and I have ZERO tolerance for someone that wants to pray on someone vulnerable.

I don't see how they can't see it's destroying our friendship.

I've tried to be as generic as possible with my story, I don't want out there and possibly found and have it thought that I was just putting our business out there but this has been my partner for over a year so we live together but couldn't be further apart.

Last week after a period of not speaking I broke it totally down for her and told her I needed her to be real and honest with me and stop doing this to me cause I will be forced to give up.

She told me it's what she needed to hear and we had a very long heart to heart and for the first time in so long I felt she was back..

Three days later it's were a square peg trying to be forced into a round hole..

Even her oldest asked the other day if she's taking her "meds" and she told him yes.. now I don't know how much playing with your meds with bipolar effects one but I know with my issues if I did that it was going to be a bad time for all involved.

Just feel so lost and Im losing my best friend.. my partner and the family we were trying to have together in one swoop.
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Posted 4/25/2020 3:35 PM (GMT -7)
So this person has 4 children and a drug problem and is off her bipolar meds and won't see a psychiatrist.

How does she take care of 4 children?

Is there a third person involved or is there just this one other person?

You said, "Last week after a period of not speaking I broke it totally down for her and told her I needed her to be real and honest with me and stop doing this to me cause I will be forced to give up."

Stop doing this to you? You are an adult. She's also doing this to her 4 children. Are they of any import in this?

Are we talking DEFACS (Department of Family and Children Services)?
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Posted 4/25/2020 3:42 PM (GMT -7)
I'm sorry..

I came looking for advice.. not feel that there are threats being made


Seriously??


I'm a 10 year military vet.. I live in the home.. do more and I'm more supportive to these kids than their own biological father..

I also STATED.. Its text by the way.. that the drugs were no longer the issue but you seemed to have missed that part and just went on to intimidation and making online threats??


Seriously??



darn 😂😂😂
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Posted 4/26/2020 2:55 AM (GMT -7)
Hi Barcode,

Welcome to the forum!

I am sorry to hear about your friend and their episodes. You are a good friend. They are lucky to have you being concerned.
You can only offer them support and help them a certain amount. However, if they are not willing or want to get help, there is not much we can do. The person must be willing to receive help and our support.

Different medications, dosage and combinations work differently for everyone. Despite this, your friend should work closely with their psychiatrist on finding the right meds. However, if they are not taking their meds, there is not much anyone can do.

I hope your friend will eventually see that you care and want to help her, and she will turn around and seek treatment.

UA
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Posted 4/26/2020 3:45 AM (GMT -7)
Am with ua. Your in a whirlwind. And caught in a tornado. The longer your friend goes without meds the bigger the tornado will become.
Keep 💪. Got to step back mate. Your health will suffer. HT.
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Posted 4/26/2020 8:16 AM (GMT -7)
Barcode,

I don't think Tim Tam was threatening, but maybe suggesting. I could be wrong.

Hang in there,

Hugs, Karen...
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