Introducing Myself and Topic: Toxic People

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Date Joined Feb 2006
Total Posts : 16
   Posted 2/12/2006 11:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi there.
I am a 30yo woman in Australia and I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder type 2 about 6 years ago. I was injured at work 18 months ago and ended up loosing my job last August. Looking back I think it may have been the best thing that could have happened for me mentally as it was a very Negative enviroment. It was only after attending counseling to deal with the feeling of being thrown on the rubbish heap and a return to work course that I was introduced to the concept of toxic people. My counselor was trying to help me identify a recent extremely uneasy and "not right" feeling, you know the sort we Bp's get when all is not ticking right  tongue  . She has also taught me how to say NO.
So I had words with my insurance company case manager and told him that unless he really needed to discuss something urgently with me he was to go through my rehab counsleor like he's SUPPOSED to, not bother me with stupid things. Sadly I also had to distance myself from a person I had been freinds with who never seems to have one even slightly positive thing to say. It came to a head 2 weeks ago when I got through to the second stage of interveiws for a job as a research Scientist and assistant to an orthopedic surgeon. It pays 30 dollars an hour and its 3 days per week which is perfect for me as it suits both my work restrictions and my brain needing to be occupied LOL.
I was so excited and this person said " Oh do you think you can handle it with your head problem? What if they find out?*
I was stunned and hurt, but realised it was just another such negative comment from this person. My bipolar has never adversely affected my working life bar 2 short periods in 6 years. Right then and there something snapped. ironically I have felt so much better scince making these two changes. By the way I am through to the last round of interveiws for this job and am so proud of myself. yeah
I'd like to get to know other BP people here and join in on the forum as a member and part of this community

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Date Joined Oct 2005
Total Posts : 4031
   Posted 2/13/2006 6:34 AM (GMT -7)   

Hey there Twistedangel,  I wanted to say welcome to Healing Well.  I dont have BP but my boyfriend does.  I have also worked in the mental health field for many yrs.  Just a little background on me.  That is great that you are taking charge of your life and your illness.  It is important that you keep a positive outlook.  Good luck with the job.......



Ellie 1
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Date Joined Apr 2005
Total Posts : 1291
   Posted 2/13/2006 7:32 AM (GMT -7)   
Welcome to our little group, Twisted Angel.
I can really relate to the Negative people in our lives. My mother is that person in mine. Rarely has anything good to say about anyone. She's 78 and needs my help so I can't just cut her out of my life but I sure don't hang out too long is she's having one of her "complaining about everything" days. Too much contact with negative people leaves me with huge anxiety attacks.
Congrats on the interview, I'd say good luck to you, but it sounds like you've really got it together and don't need luck.
Take Care
Good judgement comes from experience and alot of that comes from bad judgement.

New Member

Date Joined Feb 2006
Total Posts : 16
   Posted 2/13/2006 8:02 PM (GMT -7)   
Thankyou so much ellie and els for your warm welcom. luck? i need all i can get LOL. I hear you both on the panic issues when subjected to too much negativity. Its enough to send my ears ringing and hide under a bed for the day sometimes.

Regular Member

Date Joined Jun 2005
Total Posts : 489
   Posted 2/18/2006 9:30 PM (GMT -7)   
  Hi Twisted Angel---I'm BP-2.   Also in therapy---Toxic people are very real & must be avoided---just as you would avoid toxic meds or foods.   In my case---most are in my family!!   It's all a matter of "taking control" of your life!   Hope i helped---Try & get on a "Spiritual Path"----Blessings----Wotan(Robert)
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