Spouse Bi-polar - Refuses Help

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   Posted 2/20/2006 11:09 PM (GMT -7)   
I can across this forum doing a google search.  perhaps someone here can help.  My wife exhibits the signs of a bi-polar disorder and refuses to acknowledge that she even has a problem.  I can no longer stand by and watch her condition deterirorate... our life is in total disarray.
I don't think intervention is an option... can anything be done to get her treatment or to get her to see and acknowledge that she needs treatment.

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   Posted 2/20/2006 11:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi dsh
Have you talked to a dr. about your wife's behavior? Maybe with your own dr's help, you both can get her the help she needs

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   Posted 2/20/2006 11:47 PM (GMT -7)   
Any advice on how to approach my doctor (as he is also her doctor as well)...  I fear that he simply won't believe me and then tell her and then she'd go off the deep end... or am I being silly.
It's hard to tell.  Several months ago she pulled a kitchen knife on me... which I really didn't fear as I'm a rather large man and much stronger than her and able to defend myself.  But I caled the police anyway... explained the situation to the responding officers and asked what could be done to force my wife to get help.
They said nothing could be done... wrote it up as a domestic disturbance and moved on.  This is going to sound horribly un-politically correct but I have a fear that most people will have a tendency to dismiss my pleas for help as some callous male behavior... "Yeah... all guys think that women are crazy..."  I know I'm rambling but I fear that no one is going to listen to me...

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   Posted 2/21/2006 5:35 AM (GMT -7)   

I would throw cautilon to the wind and speak with your family physician just the same.  I think he is supposed to keep your confidence, and as long as he doesns't go running to her (which I seriously doubt) nothing is lost in the attempt.

On of the primary problems with BP's is that they often don't believe thier sick.  Quite often it's something that they just don't see.  They don't see the symptoms and what they do see, they interpret as a "Bad day"  or pms or even your fault, even though you can clearly understand that is not the case.

The fact that she has physically attacked you changes this situation.  She needs help, if she refuses to get it herself, it is your job, as her husband, to get it for her.  you didn't say if there were children in the picture, but if so that makes the need even more immediate.  You may have problems getting people to listen, be persistent, if the first dr. doesn't listen, find another.  Perhaps suggest family counseling.  She may not feel as threatened if you're there by her side and she doesn't believe all eyes are on her.

Don't give up, where there's a will theres a way.  Post here when you need support.  Thats what healingwell is all about.

God Bless and Take Care


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