My name is Chris and my fiance` has recently been diagnosed with Bipolar (in December). The reason I am writing is to get advice on how to help her, even though I am half a world away deployed in Iraq. She was diagnosed shortly after her grandfather passed away a week after Thanksgiving. After his death she tried to push me away and wanted nothing to do with anybody, not even her own family. I was initially deployed here for a month back in late December and while I was gone she began seeking professional help and getting on correct medications. When I returned from Iraq, we took a short break so she could figure out her priorities and what she wanted in her life. We got back together at the end February and it seemed that she had her head together and things are going great now. I got word that week that I was to be deployed in two weeks, this time for four months. We both knew this was going to be tough. Anywho, enough of a background of us.
The past two weeks that I have been gone many things have happened in her life that scares me that she may not be able to hold on and I can not be there to help her. She is being laid off and will not longer be working after Friday, she will lose her medical insurance (which means meds and therapy may go away),a guy at her work has been making her question her faith in the Lord by filling her head with his religious beliefs (Church of Christ), and she has two exs that won't leave her alone now that they know I am over here. I have had a couple conversations with her where she was almost two the point where she wanted to harm herself, and a few days before I left for here I had to calm her down so she wouldn't harm herself. She has had suicidal thoughts but thank God she has never carried anything out, I do my best to e-mail, Instant message, or call her every chance I get. The nine hour difference and the fact that I am not there makes it hard for me to keep in constant contact. What are some things that I can do to help? Is there anything else I can do other than just try and be there and talk to her as much as I can? I thank you for taking the time to read this and for any response.