My Mother is BiPolar, Don't know what to do

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   Posted 5/13/2006 1:49 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello my name is Beth, My mother was diagnosed when I was 12 years old, I am now 21, I have a younger brother who is 15 and still lives at home with her. Since my dad passed away March of 2005 she is getting worse. She goes throu these stages where she seems alright and then all of a sudden her mood drops dramatically. Today I woke up to find my answering machine filled to the max limit, all of the calls are from her. She says the most hurtful things and vulgur things in them. She also did this when I was in juvinile hall aprox 2 years when I was 14-16 years old but in letters. At 1 point the staff became so alarmed from the letters they stopped letting me have the lettings in my dorm room because they were scared of the other girls reading them(they preread all your incoming and outgoing mail). For years she has had this obcession that Mental Heath which is a place she goes to for her meds and to see her phyciotrist is out to sabatoge her. I am starting to think she is phycofrenic also(excuse my bad spelling plz). It runs in my family on her side, her father went under shock treatment and died when she was 7 years old. But these newest phone calls are more hurtful and scarey sounding then normal. I know that I should contact her therapist but im afraid they will put her in that place again. She hates it there and I really don't want to do such a thing if I dont have to. I just am worried that she could become violent with my younger brother. Now normally she is far far from being a Violent person but there have been a few times in the past. I remember her grabbing me by my hair when i was 12 years old out of bed to fold laudry after she got out of work at 11pm. This is when my grades went from honar student to all D's and F's. I wont want to see the same thing happen to my brother. I hate this disease sometimes it makes me hate her even thou I know I shouldnt. I wish that it would be curred so badly, she is miserable all the time.
Just looking for some imput on this usually I talk to my friends online about this but none are on at the moment just needed to talk to someone about it.
Hoping you a good day

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   Posted 5/13/2006 6:53 AM (GMT -7)   
Contact her tharapist,before she hurts your brother................

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   Posted 5/13/2006 7:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Sorry you've had it so bad hon. Perhaps it would be wise to contact her therapist so your brother is safe. She probably isn't even aware there's a problem. Often when the illness is at it's worst, the person is unaware of any change.
Is there an alternate living arrangement that can be made for your brother? It sounds like he's not in the best situation where he is. Maybe another family member could put him up until your mother is stabilized.
I hope everything works out for the best Beth, If you need to talk feel free to post anytime.
Take care and welcome to Healingwell
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   Posted 5/13/2006 8:02 AM (GMT -7)   
Don't dismiss the paranoia of her thinking her therapist is out to sabotage her recovery.  She could easily have some schizoid tendencies and all the reassurances in the world can't help her if she needs anti-psychotic meds.  Sadly, that often goes with Bipolar, especially during periods of extreme mania.
A friend of mine has an acqaintance who's a paranoid schizophrenic and believes everyone is out to get her--every man who lays eyes on her can barely control his passion for her.  She took to carrying mace at her apartment's common area and just about got evicted.
Not knowing her condition, I volunteered to help her move a few years ago--was that a memorable day!!!  I made the mistake of petting a cat and saying 'hi' to her neighbor.  I was informed the cat was evil and the neighbor was a witch!!! 
My friend thinks if she just reasons with her, she'll 'see the light' and realize these delusions are just that.  Doesn't work that way--until this lady gets on the right meds, all the talk therapy in the world isn't going to do a think.
Take care of yourself.

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