first, I would like to introduce myself.
my name is Rick and I live in ohio, I have been married for over 19 years to someone I have reason to believe has bipolar.
first off, I want to say I have not always been the perfect husband.
back when we first got married I was a total ******. over the years I do feel I have changed alot.
my wife has always seem to suffer from depression at times, at one point about 13 years ago during one of her low times she yelled she thought she needed drugs to feel better (she is not one to do drugs or drink)
being the ****** I was at the time, I convenced her she just needed to watch what she ate and needed to spend time thinking good thoughts.
a few years later during one of her down times she did go see a doctor. who said she was suffering from a mild case of (cant remember if it was depression or manic depression) and he wanted to give her some drugs, But, we also found out she was pregnant so he wouldnt give her the drugs at the time.
a few weeks later she lost the baby, and after a short while, I suggested she go back to him and get on the drugs he wanted to give her, she said she didnt need them, she was fine now.
over the next few years, she had (and we had) our ups and downs.
some of the down times we had was completely my fault.
but her personal down times seems to get worse and worse.
again, she is not one to drink or do drugs, nor does she think of harming herself or others.
instead when she reaches her down times, her only answer is to leave our marrage.
of course she is like this again right now or I wouldnt be writting here now.
we went through this about a year and a half ago (right around christmas time.)
her only presents to our 2 sons and me was she was leaving us.
needless to say, she didnt, (she did spend a day or 2 at a friends house out of state)
a few weeks later she broke down and started crying saying that she didnt know what she was thinking, she was so sorry to put me through that and the kids through that ect....
over the next few months things where "normal"
then, for a few months she seemed very happy, she wrote me sweet letters, she would call me from her work to mine just to tell me she missed me and wanted to hear my voice. and she was working her butt off (even during the down times, she never misses work) (I guess that was her high times)
over the past 2 months or so I have watched her again distence herself from me (and slightly away from our kids) to the point she doesnt talk to us, she ignores my calls to her when she is working as well as calls from our sons, today she told me she was leaving me and had to end the marrage again. and no matter what I say, thats her only issue in life.
I did call a hotline for mental heath, I spoke to a doctor and told him everything she has said, and told him what I have seen in her. he right away said it sounded like bipolar (he said he cant really make a judgement call for sure on the phone talking to me but suggested I take her for help, (she of course doesnt agree, and feels her only way to feel better to is end the marrage)
he also suggested I should find support groups for myself and our kids for people living with people with bipolar
no matter what happens to our marrage, I want her to at least seek help.
I have tried to find storys like mine on the web, but they all seem to have feelings of killing themselves, or turning towards drugs and drinking..... all issues she doesnt have.
sooooooo after this long story, has anyone here seen or been in a issue like this?