Is Therapy Supposed to Suck?

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   Posted 11/13/2006 5:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Or is it just me? I have to be there in 2 hours and I would rather take a severe beating than go. I like my therapist, he's one of the nicest guys I've ever met. I just hate this part of the treatment. I can deal with the meds. Most of the time... devil but this therapy nono   is a pain in the nono !

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   Posted 11/13/2006 10:22 AM (GMT -7)   
sounds like you have some real conflicts!  i'm far from a therapist (watch it, there's always a *but* coming) but i've been in therapy for more years than you probably have been alive. :-)    at least i know some of the questions to ask and even a few of the (partial) answers.
no, it is not *normal* (whatever that is) to fear or shy away from therapy.  this behavios is indicative of some underlying pboble.
is there something that you are afraid or reluctant to discuss with your therapist?  this catagory can include suppressed memories.
does your therapist remind you of someone who perhaps hurt you or otherwise offended you in the past?
is your therapist going too quickly so that you are reluctant to go at that pace?
is this the right therapist for you?  many therapists may be nice people, but not every therapist is for every patient.  a therapist's first job is to gain rapport.  this makes them come on as "nice".  their second onvective is to find out what is troubling you and, finally, to use their skill, training, and experience to help you deal with these issues.
therapy is like pealing an onion:  for every problem resolved (or seemingly resolved), there is another one that surfaces.
hope this helps.  let us know how it's going.

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Date Joined Sep 2006
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   Posted 11/13/2006 6:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Ridinhi

Is therapy supposed to suck? YES!!!!!!!!!

Sorry, that is my own opinion of it. But I go, I enjoy speaking to my therapist about football or deer hunting.

When I first went, I was determined that I would not tell the guy anything. Spent many dollars just arguing about nothing. He was prepared for that, I was not his first reluctant patient.

But the guy did help me resolve some issues. And those issues did not have anything to do with my BP. It helped my anger.

The guy was very good at leading the conversation at a pace I was comfortable with. He knew I was holding back things, but he let me voice those when I felt ready.

Hope that helps

I want "I wish I had one more day to spend at the office" on my tombstone.

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   Posted 11/14/2006 4:22 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Ridinhi,

Welcome to HW! -- Hope you have fun here as well as get some support! :)

Well, the guys have done good -- great feedback Warren and Cap! Both make excellent points about therapy -- our own expectations and behaviour as well as those of our therapists. And, yes, therapists know that we're not all willing talkers -- some are better at seeing through the cr*p we can sometimes spout at them than others. As Warren says, the trick is to work out if this is just a nice guy or a therapist that you feel comfortable with and find to be a nice guy as part of that.

Let us know how it went, eh?

Rosie x

People are not like fish: they do not work well battered.

When I'm not in my right mind, my left mind gets pretty crowded...


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