I noticed a huge change in my wife in early Sept. My wife and I had been trying to get pregnant and she was on the drug clomid. I believe she got afraid to find out if she could get pregnant or not and she quit taking the drug.
After she quit taking the drug my wife's personality changed. She wanted to buy a vehicle that I didn't think we could afford, and later she started talking with a 16 year old kid online my wife is 25.
I finally had enough and I moved out of the house. I literally couldn't understand what was going on. A week after I moved out my wife calls and tells me she feels guilty and there's something she wants to talk to me about. She tells me she went to the movies with this 16 year old kid and she doesn't know what she's doing. I go back to the house and she's crying and says she doesn't know what she's been thinking. I comfort her and she tells me she's going to quit talking to the kid and it's over.
Well on Monday I ask if she's talked to him yet and she tells me she hasn't gotten a chance to yet. I finally go to the house and I'm talking to her Tuesday, and my wife tells me she's doing nothing wrong, and basically she's not going to stop talking to this kid. I honestly felt like I'm talking to a completely different person than who I talked to on Tuesday.
I begin to wonder what's wrong with my wife and I start looking around on the Internet. I begin to get the feeling that she has bi polar, and I believe the clomid set off a mania state.
I had been with my wife for 7 years and I believe she was depressed the entire 7 years. I never seen her in a full blown mania state before so I had no idea what I was dealing with.
I went to a counselor because of some of the things I had done during the marriage that I'm not proud of. While I'm talking to the counselor and telling her things about my wife she tells me she does believe my wife has bipolar and I need to get her into see a counselor.
Well I talk to my wife and she agreed to go and she went and seen this counselor. The counselor said she's going to see both of us separately since it's OK with the both of us.
I had an appointment with the counselor fallowing my wife's appointment and the counselor told me that she told my wife she's bipolar. My wife took it very well and is willing to go on medication and willing to get help.
The thing is I love my wife more than anything. I want to work this out. My wife has been telling me that she doesn't love me that way anymore. She says she just loves me as a friend and doesn't want to work out the marriage.
I was wondering what I should expect once she gets on medication and begins therapy for this.
I've been talking to the therapist and I believe the majority of our problems in this relationship have to do with my wife's illness. I know we could have a happy marriage if she gets this under control.
I just don't know what to expect. I've had a really hard time this last month and a half since I moved out and i don't know how much more I can take.