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Date Joined Jun 2006
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   Posted 1/2/2007 9:11 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi. My name is Andrea and I am actually from the arthritis group. I wanted to leave a post in hopes that someone could guide me. I have a daughter who is 15 yrs old and she was diognosed with bi-polar last year. She has been on Depakote 500mg 3 times a day. She is going to a new psychiatrist on Jan 8th because we feel that there might be another problem. Her outbursts are sometimes severe and she has very impulsive behavior. I find it hard sometimes because I feel like I cannot connect with I can't relate. I am very close to my other children but everytime I try with her it seems like we are distant. I cannot find any support groups where I live, so I was hoping that maybe someone on this sight can give me some advice. Any response about anything will be greatly appriciated.
My name is Andrea and I am 39 years old. I have 3 children. Their ages are 20,17 and 14. I was diognosed with RA last year and i am currently on Methotrexate and Folic Acid. I am very close to my children and I love life. Sometimes I wish that I was a diiferent person but then I look at how fortunate I am to have a wonderful family who supports me and my condition. Hopefully one day they will find a cure, but until they do all of you are in my prayers!!!!

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Date Joined Nov 2006
Total Posts : 215
   Posted 1/2/2007 10:47 PM (GMT -7)   
Therapy, therapy, therapy! I know, I am a counseling student and I am bent in that direction, but I think it is especially true here.

I have never read this about bipolar illness, but it is something that has come to me being on this board. I think that bipolar people may be more sensitive than other groups of people. I think there is a lot of self-consciousness and shame that comes with this illness. The general population views bipolar people as some of the extremely mentally ill, and it is not so. Bipolar is a medical condition, not really a mental condition. It is a problem of brain chemistry interfering with mental functioning. This mind body connection is present in every illness known to mankind, and it not peculiar to just those with bipolar illness. It is unfortunate that society sees bipolar this way. This view visits itself on bipolar sufferers. As a result, in my view, they start to feel this way about themselves. I think this is terrible!

Being a teenager is a difficult time. I firmly believe that teens need someone they can talk to about what is going on their heads. Sometimes, this can be a parent, but most often it needs to be someone else. A therapist is a good choice, if they are experienced with both bipolar and teens in your daughter's case, so that she has a safe place to let it all hang out. As parents, we tend to have our own ideas and listening the right way is tough, if not impossible no matter how close to our kids we are. I have taken my own teenagers to therapy and I think it helped them. I have others yet to be teens and when their time comes, they will go too. I was and am entirely too close to the situation to be supportive and objective in the ways that they needed.
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Yes, it was me...I know because I was there when I did it. Lupus sufferer, bipolar II sufferer. Currently on Indocin for chronic pericarditis related to lupus, and cherishing every deep breath without pain. Currently in graduate school for mental health counseling, class of Fall 2007. Vegan and loving it!

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Date Joined Jul 2006
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   Posted 1/3/2007 4:27 AM (GMT -7)   
i'm not sure if i would be as strong as dragon about therapy (she's usually very definite :-) ), but agree that it is one arrow in your quiver.
from the little that you present, it's hard for me to make any certain opinions.  if your child has been diagnosed with bp, at least you have one answer, but not necessarily THE answer.  teen years are difficult, especially for someone with bp.  hormones add to the imbalances associated with the illness.  answers?  if i had one i wouldn't necessarily be sitting in south texas. yeah
getting close to your kids is difficult.  m,y wife's daughter was an adult before she let me in.  all that i can suggest is to be patient, be supportive, and be available.  also avoid telling her that she "shouldn't feel that way" or "solving" her problem in 3 mins.  kids have to feel that they can speak without worrying about the repercussions of their openness.
i'm far from an expert in these matters, but i've lived a long time and had a carnucopia of experiences. 
hope this helps.
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