With twins this is going to be harder, but...sleep when they sleep. Housework waits. Babies are only little for a short time. Concentrate on getting to know your children, on falling in love with them, in a routine that works for you. It is one thing to get up with babies in the night and feel tired the next day. It is altogether another thing to get up with them and then believe that your house should be in 100% perfect order 100% of time, think that dinner HAS to be on the table at 6, that you always need to look good, etc. The latter will drain you out and leave you a limp washrag.
When I had my babies, my mom would constantly rag on me about the state of my house. She always wanted to "help out" by caring for the babies. THe real help I needed was caring for my house and seeing to meals. A silly casserole was what I needed! For her to do some laundry is what I really needed. She didn't understand that my first need, my first responsibility was to my baby. Screw the rest of it.
I would suggest that you check out some online sources for OAMC or Once A Month Cooking. There are a lot out there. Do what you can now. They say to cope with anything, don't get too tired, too hungry or too lonely. Tired is expected, but if you are eating right and your husband/mom/best friend, whomever, will come and help you cope with the house and the laundry, you'll fare better. It is scary to think of feeling too tired and overwhelmed. You are right to worry that it is a recipe for disaster. However, if you have household help and you are getting nutritious hot meals out of the freezer, you'll be more likely to feel human and in control.
Oh and um, come here when you feel like you are about to burst. Let us listen, we do you know.
The Lady Dragonfly
Yes, it was me...I know because I was there when I did it. Lupus sufferer, bipolar II sufferer. Currently on Indocin for chronic pericarditis related to lupus, and cherishing every deep breath without pain. Currently in graduate school for mental health counseling, class of Fall 2007. Vegan and loving it!