let me share some of my experiene with you. my father was uneducated and my mother was even more so. i was taught that working was the only measure of a man. when i went to college, my father would pick up one of my text books and say derogatorily, "what do you learn from all these d*mned books!"
i got a couple of pieces of paper saying that i was educated to a greater or lesser extent. i thought that with my education i would always have work and "be productive." when i got my ma, i ran smack dab into nixonian economics. richard milhaus nixon placed resources for the very poor but did so at the expence of the middle class. it took me almost a year to find a career position.
when i became disabled after falling down a flight of stairs i was unable to work. all of my life i defined myself by my employment - i was my job.
then i got the insight. my not working doesn't change who i am. i still donate to charity and have my own religious beliefs. i still read. i still help people. i am still an activist (with a computer rather than on foot). I AM STILL ME!!!!!
copster, i submit to you that you are not defined by what you do but, rather, by what you bellieve and by what you do.
i hope this perspectie helps.
That light at the end of he tunnel? It's an on-coming train.
Some day you'll learn that a good bm is better than sex.
Insanity is defined as doing the same actions over and over again and expecting a different outcome.