Vent about insensitive spouse

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Date Joined Jan 2007
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   Posted 2/19/2007 12:14 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm at a loss with my husband.

He and I have a rocky marriage, at best. I'm afraid to open up to him sometimes because in the past he's used things against me. But over the last few months, we've been working things out and I've been trying to trust him with my feelings again.
Yesterday though all that exploded in my face.

I'd forgotten to run an errand for him - and read him the riot act when I arrived home and he was nowhere to be found. He says I went from 0-60 in no time flat...which, to be perfectly honest, I probably did.
But he turned it personal and called me wacko, then he accused me of playing the victim when I reminded him I don't choose to be this way.
He thinks medication is a miracle cure and will immediately fix all of my problems. As we all know...this isn't the case.
I'm only in my 4th week of my first med...from all that I've read, very rarely does the first medication at the first dosage work properly. Isn't there a certain amount of 'tweaking' before we get the meds just right?
Husband is out of town until the end of the week, and I'm thankful we'll have a few days to cool down and gain some perspective. Granted, all the housework and parenting duties are now on my shoulders, but I welcome those challenges versus being with him right now.
Thanks for reading my mini-vent.

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Date Joined Jan 2007
Total Posts : 47
   Posted 2/19/2007 4:29 PM (GMT -7)   
Yes yes yes, meds are not a miracle fix, which is sad! But true. What meds are you taking? I got diagnosed in Sept. and am still working out the med-part. But, the good news is that each med will usually make you feel a little better and a little closer to finding the right one.

I am really sorry that your husband is having some trouble adjusting to your condition. Many people, including your husband, have trouble understanding with BP is, because as we all know, BP is usually associated in society as being "crazy". Sit down and let him know how this is affecting you after he comes home. This may take a while as he is probably going through almost as much stuff as your going through and does not understand what your shoes feel like (lol I think that is such a weird expression). Take the time to listen to his problems too; once you two are both open it will be a lot easier adjusting to your condition.

Hope everything goes well! Keep us updated.

"Stability is a place bipolar people only visit"
Bipolar II, rapid cycler, severe depression/hypomania, severe anxiety, and lifesaver- Shadley's Titan, nine-year-old reg. Quarter Horse Gelding.
Past: Depakote, Lexapro
Current: Lamictal, Abilify, Buspirome, Minocycline, omega 3, probiotics

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