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Date Joined Feb 2007
Total Posts : 19
   Posted 2/25/2007 9:39 PM (GMT -7)   
I need to see a pdr. I am having trouble getting out of bed in the morning making deciosions and flat out living. The meds. zanex, respidol and efexor just are not cutting it. my gp has set up my meds. he advised me to see a pdr also. I can barely keep my own life striaght. My wife has cronic back pain and other problems depression ect. I am just not there for her and that works on me emotionally it is tearing us apart shes upstairs in bed and here i am down stairs on the computer. I feel i need to be on my own so i can just deal with the stuff in my own head. I don't even know if there is a question here but if anybody has a thought or comment please write me back.
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Date Joined Sep 2006
Total Posts : 657
   Posted 2/26/2007 6:47 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi there billyb , welcome to the BP board.

You're on the right track there - get that pdr and have your meds sorted , don't sit and suffer needlessly.

I wish you well , you are strong and I know you will straighten your life out :-)

Let us know how your doing.

Take care ,

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Date Joined Nov 2006
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   Posted 2/26/2007 10:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Marriage works both ways, or at least is intended too. She is not really there for you, either, it seems. If you have spent a long time caring for her and taking care of her needs and not seeing to YOUR needs properly, that will make you depressed. I am not blowing you off or minimizing. I can tell you hurt and what you most want is to be better, to feel better and feel like you are in control of your life. That is not too much to ask, by the way.

As for being on your own to sort yourself out, you might have something there. (See above) I am concerned that you have set up your marriage and your life around taking care of someone who does not, in turn, take care of you. You are missing reciprocity in your marriage. In my limited observation of life, marriages which lack reciprocity do not work well in the long term. Not everyone has what it takes to give selflessly day after day without breaking under the pressure. You have your own difficulties with anxiety and depression, you need to care of yourself, and you are here feeling worse because you are not there for your wife. Who is there for YOU? You count too. You are worthwhile too and you deserve to have YOUR needs met too.

Be easy on yourself and do see the psychiatrist. If you can go to counseling, please go. I found it extremely helpful and I am sure you would too.
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