Does it really ever get better?

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   Posted 2/27/2007 12:13 PM (GMT -7)   
I have had Bipolar for 3 years now. I've been through so many different meds and in the hospital a couple of times and see my Pysch 1-2xs a month and see my therapist every 2-3 weeks. I have been doing all of this since I was first diagnosed.
They are still adjusting my meds and I wonder if I will ever get back to feeling my old self again. I have been fighting very hard to get to this place and I don't feel that I should have to work this hard just to feel my normal self. I have no enthusiasm about anything.
My last manic episode was in January.
Well that's my questions for those who have had Bipolar longer than me.

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   Posted 2/28/2007 6:58 AM (GMT -7)   

Well I think I have had it longer than you - by that I mean I have known there was something wrong with me for years but have only been diagnosed recently.

So I can't tell you that life will be a breeze BUT as you say , they are still working on your meds , so keep going , keep working at it because there is one thing I DO will never be your old self again , because by going through these struggles , by fighting these fights , you will be BETTER than your old self. As I think you will already realise , you are a stronger , more compassionate , caring and understanding person for your trials.

Be proud of who you are and how far you have come , hold your head up high and keep trucking.

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   Posted 2/28/2007 3:36 PM (GMT -7)   
"will life eve get better?"  no offence, but this sounds like the fuzzy thinking purpetrated by madison avenue:  "brand x cleans better!"  better than WHAT?
i agree with smiler.  change is the only constant in the univese.  quarks are in constant motion.  energy is constantly in motion and pepetually changing from one state into another.  all of our lives - those of us with bp and those without - reflect this divine dance.  all that anyone can say is that our lives will be different.
you are exerting an inordinate of energy trying to bring back yesterday rather than embracing the present.  an ancient chinese proverb says, "you can nerer step into the same river twice."  nor can any of us bring back yesterday.
love yourself for who and what you are.  it is less taxing and much more rewarding.
That light at the end of he tunnel?  It's an on-coming train.

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   Posted 3/1/2007 12:45 PM (GMT -7)   
I have been diagnoised with bipolar disorder since 2001.  I have been on all kinds of meds have gone to 3 differest Psyc. I go every 2 -3 weeks I also go to a thearapist and I am still having problems.  My Doctor now want me to look into Vagus nerve stimulation.  But my insurance will not cover it they say that it is still under research.  I hope things get better.

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   Posted 3/1/2007 3:43 PM (GMT -7)   
i too have been through lots of meds. the ones i'm on now though may be the right ones. i've been stable for a long time now. stable may be all i can hope for. that's better than nothing i guess. keep trying.

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   Posted 10/21/2007 7:55 PM (GMT -7)   
Everyone's replies depresses me!!  Yes, you can get better.  The key is demanding good doctors.  I have had bipolar disorder for eight years, most of them miserable because I had lazy or condescending doctors who didn't pay enough attention to my personal makeup.  The same drugs work different for different people.  You really have to experiment and keep experimenting until you reach the quality of life you want and deserve.  I finally found a great doctor and we have found a combo of meds that really work.  I am happy and feel in control of my life.  You will get there too!!  Keep on trying, tell yourself that it will get better, even though it may take a while.  Love yourself enough to keep trying and trying and also, hold the bar up high.  You deserve to feel great!

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   Posted 10/22/2007 7:06 AM (GMT -7)   
You have given me so many words of encouragement, especially in the last couple of weeks when I needed it the most.  So I am going to try to do the same for you, at least a little bit.  You've already received some great advice in other posts, so I'm not sure whatI can add, but I'll try.
You have had this longer than I have, but I would like to help a little if I can.  I was diagnosed w/Bipolar in July, but I've known something was wrong for a long time, but didn't know what.  I too see a therapist 1x/week and a pdoc every 1-2 months. 
As you know, I've had some recent med issues/changes and it's maddening as h**l sometimes.  But we know that geting on the right combo of meds can be difficult at times for some of us, but if we want to be stable we have to go through it.  If you feel you don't have the right pdoc, look for another.  Maybe your therapist could recommend ones that he/she may work with.  Check them out, you may find one you like better.
I've wondered so many times whether or not I'll ever get my old life back, but I think I've come to the conclusion that my life won't be exactly as it used to be.  Things have really changed for me, but I do believe that I can work very hard at getting back some of the way things were and realize that there will be some things I just won't ever get back.  I will have to accept that, move on and create new things for myself.
Remember, we have to work super hard to get what we want, just like anyone else, but we may have to work a little harder because of our situations.  There are times we just want to give up (I sure do know about this  - sad ), but we can't, even when it's so very frustrating.
Yes, you will have set backs now and then, but you are a strong person; you will pull yourself out of that set back and be a little stronger for having to go through that.  I haven't had this diagnosis very long and I have already had a couple of set backs, but I've gotten through them (although not very well at times); with the help of your kind words, as well as from others here at HW.  Then you move on with your life and be proud of yourself that you could do it.  Try to be realistic with yourself and know that you are strong, creative, smart and will be able to do anything you set your mind to. 
Here's an idea, maybe you can make a small list of short-term goals for yourself, once you reach those, be proud of yourself and do something to treat yourself for acheiving them.  Then do it again  come up with another list, maybe a little longer than the last one, once you achieve those, be proud and buy yourself something special.  Eventually, you will be able to make a list of longer-term goals.  You know that you will be able to meet these goals over time and you will be very proud of yourself for achieving them.  When you do, give yourself an even better something special (maybe go to a salon for a day and be pampered).  BTW - these are all just suggestions of course, just trying to help you.  I'm actually also going to try the whole goal thing for myself.
As others have told you, love yourself and keep trying - you deserve to have a great life!  You will get it, with some hard work.  Remember - baby steps (as I have been told so many, many times - LOL).  Feel free to email me any time - my address is in my profile.  I'm also on Yahoo IM.  Let us know how you are doing - we love and care about you.
I hope some of this helps.  Lots of BIG ((((Hugs)))) for you.

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   Posted 10/22/2007 3:43 PM (GMT -7)   

It's good so good to have you on the board and I think you make an excellent point. We do have a lot of control over the level of care we receive and how we manage our own disorder. However, as you know, the disorder itself makes that management difficult for some people and insurance claims make doctor choices complicated.

Secondly, you are responding to a thread which hasn't been active since March. Have a look at what's been written in the last month or so. We'd love to have you chime in on those conversations.

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It is a melancholy of mine own, compounded of many simples, extracted from many objects, and indeed the sundry contemplation of my travels, in which my often rumination wraps me in a most humorous sadness. -- William Shakespeare

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   Posted 10/23/2007 8:39 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Wen & insaneinsuburbia,

FYI...the post that you are replying to is a old post from March. I am doing much better these days and understand the "will I ever be normal again" thing.

Thanks for the replies though. I am sure it will help somebody else out there with all of the wonderful suggestions.

Thank you.

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