Here's a delema for ya! I have a dear friend who is also a single parent with a Bipolar son. The son has been on meds for years and years and the father just recently helped him ween himself OFF meds completely. Which is a good thing because Scott, 19, is now doing great!
Mike, the father my friend, also has a Autistic son, 12, whom my daughters babysits. Scott, the other son could not babysit his brother because (as his father told me) "Scott would kill his brother". (I don't think Mike was speaking literally but who knows for sure!) That was 2 years ago.
Now Scott is much MUCH better, so I'm told. His dad told me that Scott is asking about my daughter Sharon and considering ASKING HER OUT!!! She doesn't know about it. HELP!!!!!!
They're both 19, but my somewhat shy daughter HAS NEVER BEEN OUT ON A DATE!! She has lots of guy friends but she's always concentrated on school (3.6 GPA in a private college prep school) Yes, I know it's up to her but my "mother-bear" instinct is coming out and I feel like a hypocrate. Afterall, my son is Bipolar and I should be more understanding. The trouble is I DO understand!
I'm AFRAID for her to get involved with Scott who has been violent in the past.
Do I tell his dad about my fears and risk OUR friendship?
Oh yeah, he's also an agent of mine and I need the work.
Scared protective A.F.momDiane!