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Date Joined Dec 2006
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   Posted 3/21/2007 6:28 PM (GMT -7)   
   well, i just wanted to drop in and say hello to everyone. i have had some really good days. i feel like a totally new person to a certain extent. i still am no where near being able to baby-sit again but i am able to clean house and be by myself some without feeling like i am dying.
   i don't have to go back to the psychiatrist for 2 months this time which is a big deal for me. however she is still fussing about my seeing a therapist. i don't want to after the first one that i seen and the way things went, but i know that i need to . i am just being stubborn.!!!!!!!!!
well hello to all and hope to find everyone doing well.  if i can be of help to anyone pls just ask and i will do the best that i can
God bless you all

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   Posted 3/22/2007 5:08 AM (GMT -7)   

That's great ath yeah yeah yeah

I'm really happy that you're doing so well , just take it one day at a time and you'll get there :-)

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   Posted 3/22/2007 4:51 PM (GMT -7)   
i feel like i am finally getting it together. of course, i know this may last a while and it may be over in an hour but i am just enjoying it while it lasts.

God bless you all

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   Posted 3/23/2007 12:25 AM (GMT -7)   
i'm so happy for you!  after 61 yrs, i'm still trying with mixed success.  :-)
may i give you a pieceof advice, based entirely on my experience?  (come on, i dare you to say "no" devil )smilewr says "take it one day at a time."  she's right.  but cut it a bit finer than that.  live in the moment.  enjooy what god has given to you and what you, yourself, have accomplished.  enjoy the essence of being.  don't worry or even contimplate the unplesent things that MAY occur - they will take care of themselves.  be cognisant of and enjoy every second that you are alive.
i pray that your recovery lasts and continues to improve.
your old and crotchety cyber friend,
That light at the end of he tunnel?  It's an on-coming train.

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Date Joined Nov 2006
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   Posted 3/23/2007 2:14 PM (GMT -7)   
I'll tell you this about therapists and why I can't say that I blame you for not wanting to go to one. First off...many of them are just plain piss poor. They must think it is a good joke on life to be paid for sitting on their best sides and get paid for just looking at someone. Some of them act like really superior beings because they have that education and since they do, THEY never had an emotional "issue" like POOR PITIFUL YOU. The going trend is to do what is called cognitive behavioral therapy. As far back as 1961, Carl Rogers and his cronies understand from studies that this type of therapy is USELESS to the client, it doesn't work and if it appears to work, the results are not lasting. However, this "technique" is easy on the therapist.

I am of the belief that bipolar people especially, and all people in general, do better with a Rogerian style therapist. They don't think they are superior, they are trying to be real with the client and real with themselves. They are locked in a struggle similar to that of the client and it is real WORK to do this kind of therapy, especially for the therapist. I think it is easier on the client in some ways because they don't actually feel they are working on their issues, but on their own, they ARE solving their problems. It is different and you'll be hard pressed to find a Rogerian because for a therapist it is such hard work.

I am in grad school to be a therapist. Guess my bent? I am finding a lot of negativity with professors and fellow students because I whole heartedly and completely believe in the Rogers' technique. Most of them are rather distant, superior acting beings who are not very interesting and rather closed off. Not "real" at all. IF you decide to try therapy, try to find yourself a Rogerian. Do not be afraid to interview a therapist for 15 to 20 minutes and do it for free and see if you can find one you have a good feeling about. If they won't allow such a free interview, forget them and keep looking.

One can spend many hours with a therapist and come to depend on them, and then cease to be at all dependent, but this is a process that takes time spent together. Don't settle for someone you are not 100% comfortable with. In the room, there are two things going on. One is a client therapist relationship and the other is two people relating to each other as human beings. If you don't feel you will be doing both of these things at once, move on.

ANd um so you know, I have had several extremely poor therapists before happening onto a Rogerian through my homeopath. It changed my life for the better. It took time, about 2.5 yrs, but it was so worth it. I still have a very great deal of love, admiration and respect for my therapist, but I am no longer in therapy. I think of her often and wonder if she understands all she did for me, but then I know she would tell me she was just real with me and I did the work all by myself. Yeah, okay, right...but I am glad I had someone watching me do the work and watching with patience, kindness and yes, even a form of love for me.

Yes Warren, I tell everyone this sort of thing!
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Yes, it was me...I know because I was there when I did it. Lupus sufferer, bipolar II sufferer. Currently on Indocin for chronic pericarditis related to lupus, and cherishing every deep breath without pain. Currently in graduate school for mental health counseling, class of Fall 2007. Vegan and loving it!

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