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   Posted 3/24/2007 6:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi, Usually I lurk around the arthritis forums, but I've had an interesting week with my now ex-fiancee and I'm curious about what kind of feedback you guys could give me.

It's kind of a long story, but I'll try to be brief.

I get home at around 9pm and my fiancee is busily painting many mirrors and picture frames a gawd awful shade of blue. her reasoning is that she is trying to find something the right size to hang above the couch. In the process she ruins approximately $400 worth of mirrors. This continues until at least 11 pm when I announce that I'm going to bed. She replies that she may wake me up for sex later, because she's ovulating and wants to have a baby. I go to sleep, asking her not to wake me up, telling her that I don't feel well.

At 8:00 a.m. she wakes me up and announces that she's been up all night, and has written me a letter. I read the letter which describes how she would like for us to take some time apart. We discuss what the definition of "time apart" is and she decides it's me getting my own apartment and she would like to know where I'm spending the night.

I'm kinda ***? and say I will absolutely get my own my apartment if that's what she wants, but I will need some time to like find one.

She tells me to go stay at my mom's, who has a 1 bedroom apartment. In the end I do and end up sleeping on her living room floor. We've been living together for approximately 7 months, and have no disagreements, other than the usual "How come you didn't make any coffee" sort of thing. I'm still kinda ***.

This is just one incident and there are times when she sleeps for a day or two at a time, she also suffers from migraines and other assorted idiosynchrocies. I described this situation to my doctor and he said Bipolar Disorder and I'm wondering if people here who have BPD would agree? Thanks for your feedback.
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   Posted 3/24/2007 7:20 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Dave.. I saw this post and just had to swing in.. Was going to ask, "How are you?" But your post pretty much spelled it out! :) Has your ex been diagnosed? Is she on any type of meds for her migraines or anything? This is a GREAT group of peeps on this forum, I know they will provide you with all kinds of feedback! Take good care, and I hope things straighten out for you, and soon!

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   Posted 3/24/2007 7:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Ducky, happy to see ya! I'm actually not that bad now. LOL. I was mostly confused and hurt when it happened, but when the doctor said Bipolar, everything sort of clicked in my head.

She has not been diagnosed as Bipolar, but she is on antidepressants. Selexa I think? Is that a thing? She often forgets to take it, and I usually don't remind her because when she gets back on it for a few days stuff like this happens. We don't usually fight, but she'll be up all night cleaning, or rearranging the furniture. Sometimes out of the blue she will say things like "we should adopt some foster children" or "we should tear down the dining room wall and put sliding doors in". Sometimes she'll say it in a completely reasonable way and i'll think i'm nuts for thinking she's nuts. But everything just comes so out of the blue. Anywho, hope you're rocking hard as always.
-SLE, RA &'s all about the acronyms!

-Current meds: Plaquenil, Sulfasalazine, and a little NSAID du jour for flavouring. Mmmmm NSAIDs.

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   Posted 3/27/2007 4:38 AM (GMT -7)   
I have no idea why the doctor would tell you that without a sitdown appointment with her. It takes alot more than someone telling a doctor about someone to diagnose bipolar disorder. I would not put a whole lot of faith in a patient unseen diagnoses.   IRISHHEAT
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