bipolar disorder

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Date Joined Jun 2007
Total Posts : 17
   Posted 6/15/2007 9:49 AM (GMT -7)   
I met a lady 2 1/2 yrs ago. Blew into my life like a hurricane.. Took it over...From the very beginning I noticed things were odd...Over the top emotionally...Every comment was like a knife to the heart... The yelling .. The running out in a panic....The constant validtation required....Wasnt till a year later that she passed a flipant comment the she panic/anxiety disorder.. The drugs were in her glove box cause she didnt want to be a drugged up zombie.. Once I new the cause and the fact she was doing nothing to manage it... I got angry and started calling her on her antics.. Needless to say that it was slow burn for the next year... She finally called it quits and told me to move on about 3 months ago.. I was devastated as I loved her deeply and wanted to support her if she would get help.. She didnt want to .. But we managed to go to a counsellor a few times.. I went back to the counsellor after the break up as I was devestated and was put on meds... The counsellor believed from my stories and meeting this women a few times that she was actually bi-polar and not panic/anxiety.. Never the less it took a few months of counselling for her to convince me that I had in fact done nothing wrong.. That all feelings in a bi-polar persons life are severely amplified and that normal things get to them much more.. Also.. A person as needy as her would never find anyone to fill her needs that she needs to fill them from the inside.. It has been 3 months and I am in a much better place althou still angry that she knew she had this affliction but wasnt up front and honest with me.. I believe the relationship could have been much different if she had been ... Not sure if Ill ever here from her again.. Went from getting a mushy valentines day card saying I was her life and she couldnt see her life without me in it... To a week later ending it saying her love for me was different and she didnt miss me like she should.. My counsellor said that was just the cycling and the emotional mood at the time.. In my gut I new I should have run as I sensed something very strange ...I guess Im angry that she wasnt upfront with me.. I would have supported her.. Her comment to me was always that Im going to go find a guy to love me for me.. Im sad for her,,, angry at her.. A part of me wants her to call as I love her very much and there was amazing chemistry but apart says that the way she is would not be a lasting relationship... and the cycle will repeat with any guy she is with.Anybody experience a situation similar.. Would love to know

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Date Joined Apr 2007
Total Posts : 150
   Posted 6/15/2007 6:44 PM (GMT -7)   
I have bipolar II. I was officially diagnosed about 2 years ago. I met my husband about 4 years ago. I knew something was wrong with me but I didn't know what. So I did not tell him either. But I didn't not tell him to deceive him, I just didn't understand what was wrong. I just thought sometimes I was seriously moody. I also have panic attacks and OCD which he knew about, but that is very minor compared to what I go through with the bipolar.
Maybe your ex didn't realize how bad she really was. It's very confusing and scary for the person who is feeling it. As I'm sure it was for you seeing what she went through.
I was handling it pretty well up until the 2 or 3 years ago when I was diagnosed. Now my emotions are a roller coaster. I tried 3 or 4 different meds and nothing is helping. So now I stopped taking them all.
I don't think you should talk to her, unless you realize what your getting yourself into and are ready to help and support her. Otherwise I think you both will end up with more hurt feelings. It takes a long time to find the right med that works for each individual.
If I knew then what I know now, I would have just walked away from my husband because I feel horrible for putting him through what I do. I think he would be much better off, although he would never leave now. We have the most amazing relationship when I'm feeling "normal" but that only lasts for a while, then I get very depressed and angry and make both of us miserable. Then it starts all over again. It's like I'm a different person every other week.
Think long & hard before you have contact with her again. Unless you sure you want to be with her it's unfair to confuse her more.
Hang in there. I hope everything works out.

olivia of course
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Date Joined Jul 2006
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   Posted 6/16/2007 11:21 AM (GMT -7)   


First, I would like to welcome you to the HW Family.

I am sorry you are going through rough patches, with time you might find that there other people going through the same things.  This could also be a good opportunity to learn about the disorder, never know who who else you might cross path with.

Hang in there!

@~ Olivia
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