Hi, I am new to this post and do not quite know where to begin. Confusion is at a premium at the moment. My wife is bi-polar - or, so I believe. Doctors have said she is simply depressed after their extensive 3 minute evaluations. After all, who could argue with a three minute diagnosis. I have only been married to the woman for 27 years.
During that time, I knew she had cheated on me a few times, which caused us much trouble and me much pain. But, yesterday, she admitted to approximately 11 affairs in just the past few years. She acts like she has multiple personalities - and will change from happy to sad to angry at the drop of a hat (and she brings her own hat!)
I finally have a psychologist who believes she is bi-polar as well and will meet with her on Sunday to recommend a psychologist whom can prescribe new meds (the ones she is taking for depression seem to be making matters worse.)
I am at a loss to know what to do. We have a 15 year old disabled son whom if we seperated or divorced would be devistated. And, even with the affairs, I love my wife passionately and completely. Although, I can forgive, I can't forget - especially, now that she tells me she has been a compulsive liar her entire life and has cheated on me at least 6 times in just the past year. She is a recovering Alcoholic and I have supported her through this, her depression, miscarrage and even her previous cheating. But, now, I feel that enough is enough. I simply cannot take any more. I don't know what I have done to deserve this treatment when I have given her nothing but all my heart for so many years. I am running the full spectrum of emotions as well. Crying, depression myself, wishing to have an affair to get even, you name it. Logically, I know the latter will never happen, as that is not in me. In fact, I have not even come close to even a discussion of having an affair with anyone in the 27 years we have been married.
Does anyone have any advice? I am going to seek professional help as soon as my insurance starts later this month. But, the pain is unbelieveable now.