I’m new to this but I really need some advice. I’ve been married for 4 years, have two children and I am very happy with my husband and the life we are building together. I believe that my father-in-law is bipolar but would never admit it. My mother-in-law passed away a few months ago and it has affected him a lot more, but he has always had these extreme mood swings. One day he is in a great mood, very high strung, hyper, and can’t sit still and another day he doesn’t crack a smile and might say two words. My mother-in-law always protected him and made up excuses for him, but she allowed him to do whatever he wanted. Now that she is gone, my husband is starting to fall into that role of protecting him. When I talk to my husband about this, he always feels that I am attacking his father, but I’m not. I just think he needs help because he has such power over everyone and affects the moods of all of us. I know that you can’t abandon family and I would never want that for my husband, but I also know that his dad has too strong of a personality and will never admit that he has anything wrong with him. He thinks he does no wrong, but he has made my life miserable. It is his way of the highway…he has certain ideas and plans in his mind that he wants everyone to follow and when we don’t go along with that he gives us the silent treatment. I’ve changed my wedding plans, named my son after him, moved to his town and done so much to try and please him but it is never good enough. The problems started when we first go married. He would just pop over our house unannounced at either or I don’t care that he comes over, but I just wanted him to call to tell us he is coming over. This little request has sparked years of problems between the two of us and in turn my husband. I don’t know what to do anymore because I feel like I can’t handle how he treats me anymore. My son also cries around him because of his moodiness. My husband and I are going to start going to therapy to learn how to cope with him, but my husband still won’t accept that he has a serious problem and feels that I am too sensitive and need to just not let it bother me. That’s why we are going for help. I can go on and on, but I just want us to all get along. Any advice?
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