Thank you LFW for your support and prayers.
My pdoc is pretty darn good. This little disagreement we're in sucks, but all in all, he is in fact the most well known and respected pdoc in my city, and my city is big. I am honestly fortunate to be one of his patients. If I ever need anything, he'll do it. I take benzo's still for my panic attacks and he's the only doc that I know of (and that all health/pharmacy professionals in my area know of) that will still call those benzo drugs into the pharmacy for me so I don't have to go in and see him. He supports me immediately and fully with any and all documentation that I need. And he has been my pdoc for 7 years now.
So, while there was a time I considered getting a second opinion, I know now, I need and want to remain under his care. If were absolutely decided about going back on meds and we couldn't come to some agreement, maybe I would think again. But today I have decided, I'm still not ready to return to bp meds.
Having said all of that, thank you for putting that idea out there. I know what you're saying, if things ever got really bad with my pdoc, I would make a decision.
My pdoc did everything right as far as easing me onto meds (and off of meds when changing, and when I went off them altogether). In the 7 years, it's always, always been small doses, slowly, working my way up, and if I ever had a problem I would simply call, then we would make adjustments. You can do everything right and people can still suffer greatly.
In answer to the anti-psychotics (my most hated form of drug ever). Everyone's treatment is different. We tried just mood stabilizers first, he just added in the ap's to try and get that "right mix". No specific reason, just trying to get the right meds. If your husbands' pdoc/doc thought it would benefit your husband's treatment, they would prescribe them for him as well. Ap's are used in bp, so it's just a matter of what the pdocs think.
Thanks again for your reply, all the best you and your family.
PS-Went the the Mental Health Assoc today and I am awaiting to have a support worker assigned to me. Good news.