Panic and Anxiety disorder is a reasonably common disorder, Gary. The National Institute of Mental Health webpage estimates that 6 million Americans suffer from it. That's roughly 1 in 75 people, according to the page. It's 50% more common in women than in men. Everyone with the disorder has varying degrees of debilitation from it. Some people have basic panic attacks. Some have agoraphobia so severe they can't leave their houses. Assuming that your dating life continues, it's not out of the question that you'll meet another woman with the disorder. Most of us who have it (and I'm guessing that most of us on the bipolar side of this board have had anxiety issues at some point) manage to live with it.
Bipolar is another matter. You're trusting the diagnosis of a counselor. I don't mean to suggest that your counselor is less than qualified, but counselors are not doctors, and counselors have hugely differing ranges of training. Some are religious leaders, some have masters degrees in social work, some have doctorates in psychotherapy. Your counselor might have suggested your ex had bipolar and you stuck with it, but without a medical doctor's diagnosis, you're going on a guess. Bipolar is a physiological condition. She needed to see a doc, and if she wasn't willing to do that, you couldn't have helped her.
I can, sadly, tell you this. Unfortunately, many women who suffered childhood abuse and often go through long periods of life being treated as though they are just "b***hes" instead of people who have been severely mistreated and don't know who to trust. It takes a lot of love and patience to be involved with someone like that. Sounds like it worked out best for everyone.
Ask me about my Bipolar Disorder!
Post Edited (serafena) : 9/19/2007 11:28:56 AM (GMT-6)