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Date Joined Oct 2007
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   Posted 10/16/2007 11:00 AM (GMT -7)   
This is going to be kinda long, and I apologize for that. I am 28 years old, and my husband is 31.
My husband and I have known one another for 20 years - his baby sister and I grew up as childhood best friends and remained that way into adulthood.
Natt (Mandi's brother) and I got together in March of 2006.  In April of 2007 we were married. I knew he was quite moody while we were dating, and I knew he was battling with depression. He couldn't seem to hold a job longer than a month or two (even a couple of them lasted only a few days).
This September, he tried to overdose on pills to kill himself. We called an ambulance and rushed him to the hospital, where he SURVIVED! THANK GOD!!!
From there we have been to behavioral health to try and get him some help.
He isn't seeing a regular doctor, he is seeing a nurse practitioner. She seems to think he just has a "mood disorder" and didn't diagnose him with bi-polar - which I believe with ALL my heart that he has.
She put him on Lithium and Seroquel (sp?). Before he was put on lithium he would have his days where he would barely speak two words to me. Then, out of the blue, he would come out of it, and he would talk non-stop about anything and everything. He would be completely happy some days, and then he would hit bottom once again.
Just like with his job situations - everytime he gets a job, he's ecstatic at first, and he will claim that he can't see himself doing ANYTHING else - he loves it there. Then, just a matter or days/weeks/months later, he hates it.
But NOW - he's on lithium. There are NO... I mean ABSOLUTELY NOOOO - good days. He's completely moody. BTW - he's been on lithium since last Thursday (today makes 5 days). His mood is completely irratic and hostile. Where, in the past, when he was having a "bad" day with no medication, I could normally ask him a question and get a corjul (sp?) answer. Now, I can't even ask him a simple question like "do you need anything?" without getting my head completely bit off.
Please don't think I'm complaining about my husband. I love him with all my heart and soul. There's no way on this earth I would even play with the idea of leaving him. I want to HELP him. I don't have all the understanding of the situation that I need... and the doctor's around here don't seem to offer a ton of help.
As of right now, we are going to a place that is based on your income for his help, but I will be getting insurance shortly when I leave my current job and go to another company that has offered me a great opportunity.
Has anyone ever gotten second opinions here? I'm thinking of taking him somewhere that is NOT based on income, and someone who will accept the insurance that I will have.
Back on track - sorry - is this normal behavior with lithium in the beginning?????? I'm so scared... I just need to know something.
I apologize for my typing skills. I'm usually much more organized and coherent, but as I re-read my post, I'm having to de-code it sentence by sentence, and I'm the one that wrote it!! I hope all of you can understand it.

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   Posted 10/16/2007 1:18 PM (GMT -7)   
First of all, Mrs. Worried, let me welcome you to the board. We're glad you found us, and hope you find the support you're looking for here.

By prescribing lithium and seroquel, your nurse practitioner has effectively diagnosed your husband with bipolar. These are the medications many doctors would give to a bipolar patient who is having a manic episode: a mood stabilizer (lithium) and an anti-psychotic (seroquel). The quick changes of mood from depressed and withdrawn to exuberant, talkative and overconfident about his job prospects sound like very familiar.

I'm not sure about whether or not the lithium is causing your husband's erratic behavior. I'd guess the seroquel is more likely the culprit and yes, I think he needs to go back to the doctor and soon. At least give the nurse a call and tell her how his mood has changed since he began taking the meds, because one of them clearly isn't working. There are many other mood stabilizers and anti-psychotics which may work better.

I think a second opinion is very much in order. Your husband needs to see a psychiatrist -- not just a general practitioner, not a nurse practitioner -- an actual psychiatrist. They know SO MUCH MORE about mental disorders, and that's the only way you're going to find a professional who can officially diagnose your husband and adjust his meds with any confidence. Call around. Even "normal" psychiatrists may offer pay scales for uninsured patients. There are also mental health clinics in most areas which offer services on a sliding scale.

Again, welcome. I hope things improve soon.
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   Posted 10/16/2007 1:36 PM (GMT -7)   
Mrs. Worried,

Welcome to HW and to the Bipolar Forum, I'm glad you found us.

The nurse practitioner would not have subsribed Seroquel and especially Lithium unless she suspected that your husband is bipolar. From what I understand if one is not bipolar these meds are supposed to do nothing, not make it worse.

I'm in agreement with Serafena on the 2nd opinion part, especially since he is not doing well on meds. I have been on Lithium for over a year, I am quite sure it is not the reason he has been erratic. If anything, it should calm him down. You should go to a psychiatrict instead of another professional.

Please let us know how things are going, we are here to support you.
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