Welcome to healing well and i hope you find the support and comfort you need in your life right now. I am very concerned for you your children and would like to know if there is anywhere safe that you can go? Do you have any family in the area where you can stay for awhile or any relatives you can live with? He is unstable right now, and given the history of physical/mental abuse in your relationship, I don't think the environment is a safe environment for you or your children right now. You have so many options and you can be protected. He doesn't make the rules .....you do, especially once the courts are involved and see that he is unstable and threatening to you and your children. I think once you are able to remove yourself from that environment, and surround yourself with loving supportive people who will be able to help you, you will make better decisions. It sounds as if he is being manipulative and cunning, just to get you to stay in an unhealthy, unstable environment....don't give him that power. You can chooose a better life for yourself until, if ever, he chooses to get help. In the meantime, YOU MUST PROTECT YOURSELF AND YOUR CHILDREN. Doyou feel comfortable going to the police? Do you have family/friends in the area?