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Date Joined Nov 2007
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   Posted 11/14/2007 5:29 PM (GMT -7)   
found this site a few weeks ago during a bad week and figured i'd join up for some sanity help.
background: my wife is bipolar and we've been dealing with it for a few years. nuts and bolts..her grandmother suffered from it,,,and she seems to have won the genetic lotto. She was always moody, but I loved her sassy-not a pushover-ness. dated 3 years- have beed married for 7(diagnosed in year 3 of marriage). her mood swings got progressively worse, became distant and way more symptomatic around year 3. She tried everything, and i mean everything to get me to leave her,but lots of prayer kept me strong. i found her a great doctor, we went together and seperate,,was put on citalopram/40 mg and clonazepam for when she has the hypers-to much coffee-swings. things were fine with minor ups and downs, had a wonderful son,,,and that stress (he's 2 now) added to the ups and downs. For the last 6 months or so the ups and downs are more frequent. i cant imagine what she'd be like if she was on no meds at all. Anyway.....since she was more symptomatic they upped her dosage of citalopram to 60mg's. She says shes better...i agree,,,but not perfect  I can always tell when shes "down" as shes an artist and she always draws "sad" people when shes down...she actually confided that on the 60mg...she doesnt feel like just crying for no reason. Im doing o.k.,,,what frustrates me...............she was raised in a family that doesnt talk,,,i was raised the opposite. She still doesnt like to talk about it,,which makes me glom onto her and then get pushed away by the moody wife .......she also has the robot like lack of emotion 90% of the time (along with being basically a-sexual)with me, but thankfully not with my son..(as long as hes not acting like a 2yr old,,,then she just wants to get out for a while). anyway enough venting.............hello,,,look foward to leaning on some of you........

olivia of course
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Date Joined Jul 2006
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   Posted 11/14/2007 10:46 PM (GMT -7)   
I would like to welcome you to the HW family and the Bipolar Forum.  I am glad you found us.
I am sorry that you had to deal with rough situations, hopefully your wife is will get well soon.  Finding the right meds is hard sometimes.  Please do not hesitate to post in the future.  Again, welcome.
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Date Joined May 2007
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   Posted 11/15/2007 4:57 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Follownhosea:

Thanks for joining us. It's good to have you. What kind of art does your wife create? What do you do?
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It is a melancholy of mine own, compounded of many simples, extracted from many objects, and indeed the sundry contemplation of my travels, in which my often rumination wraps me in a most humorous sadness. -- William Shakespeare

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Date Joined Nov 2007
Total Posts : 28
   Posted 11/16/2007 3:13 PM (GMT -7)   
I am glad to hear your story because it is similar to mine. My wife has been trying to get rid of me and trying to work things out several times in the last year. We are currently in the getting rid of me stage. I am on the couch. I love her and have no desire to leave her but I need my loving wife back. I get no affection much less sex. She is now treating our 4 yr old daughter better now that she is back on her meds but she still doesn't seem to care about me. My wife also has this lack of emotion about anything. i feel your pain. I hope your situation gets better. I am not a religious person but I am praying mine will get better. Thanks for sharing your story.

New Member

Date Joined Nov 2007
Total Posts : 17
   Posted 11/16/2007 5:48 PM (GMT -7)   
familyman,,i read your post earlier and am going to reply to it soon,,,it was weird reading your post,,,was on the job for 7 years before i found a way out

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Date Joined Sep 2007
Total Posts : 187
   Posted 11/17/2007 4:40 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi follownhosea
Welcome to HW! I am sorry you are experiencing such turmoil right now. Has your wife seen her psychiatrist lately? It sounds as if she still has not found the right combination of medications. Is she and/or you in therapy?

Stay Strong!

New Member

Date Joined Nov 2007
Total Posts : 17
   Posted 11/17/2007 6:29 PM (GMT -7)   
she saw her doc about 4 weeks ago,,,she is due back to go next month,,,gonna post a question in a new thread
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