What should I tell my 15 year old teenage son about his dad being manic depressive and on lithium?

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   Posted 12/10/2007 10:22 AM (GMT -7)   
We are divorced but he loves his dad and his dad loves him.What is too much or too little to tell him about his illness without it hurting either one?

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   Posted 12/10/2007 10:58 AM (GMT -7)   

I would tell him as much of the truth as possible.  My three older daughters all know my dx, one has actually been dx with bp herself.  He probably already feels that something is wrong.  Sometimes things make more sense when you can put a label on it.  After all it's a disorder, not a character flaw.  He needs to be made to understand that so that he can see his fathers illness in it's proper light. 

It all depends on his maturity level of course.  My 10 year old knows I take meds but not what for.  He's never asked.  I guess when he does I'll tell him the truth.

Good luck to you


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   Posted 12/10/2007 7:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Answers,

Welcome to the board!

I second Ellie. Give him information about the disease, explain why your ex was diagnosed with it in a clinical way, in as non-scary and non-judgmental a way as possible, and let him ask questions. By the way -- what does dad think about this?
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   Posted 12/13/2007 4:39 PM (GMT -7)   
I am new here, but I agree you should share with him what he wants to know. At that age I think it is best to go by their lead, as far as how much information they want or need. I have a 14 year old daughter and I answer any questions, but beyond that I dont want her innudated with too much info.

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   Posted 12/15/2007 11:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello Answers,

Welcome to the HW family. I agree with everyone, you should definetly give out some information, you should not leave him in the dark. He is old enough to understand some aspects of the disorder. But how much info you give out is up to you. But as Serafena asked, what does the dad think? I think it should involve him as well, especially since it it about him.
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