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   Posted 1/8/2009 10:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Ladies,
I hope all of you had a wonderful Holiday Season and I wish all of you a happy New Year.
Well, I really need all of you once again (you have always been here for me) as my Mother has a suspicious lump in her right breast.  I will take her to the surgeon Tuesday to get his opinion and probably schedule a time for biopsy.  I am familier with this doc as he is a partner of my wonderful surgeon that helped me five years ago.  That dam* circle, only this one is going counter-clockwise.  What would really be strange is if she has the same type of B/C I had.  Phyllodes Tumor is so rare.  But if it is a Phyllodes then at least I know about it. 
Mother is 83 years old, very set in her ways and if it isn't B9 then we will have a very long road ahead us.  Making treatment decisions will be difficult as she is ready to go!!  She has been ill for many years and this could be the last straw.  The other concern is that my Mother and I have had a rather hard relationship for awhile now and her needing me is a very anxiety provoking situation.  I know that the Lord would not have given it to me as he never gives more than we can handle, but that is hard to keep in mind some days.  I guess I will have to up that anti-anxiety med for awhile.
I am asking for prayers and good thoughts sent to me and Mom.  I will try to be more present and I hope you all know that I have all of you in my thoughts and prayers often.
Love to you,

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: if one falls down, his friend can help him up.  Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

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   Posted 1/9/2009 12:04 PM (GMT -7)   

Candy I am sorry to hear about your Mom. Please hang in there, I know it's going to be stressful.  You both are in  my positive thoughts and prayers.

L&H, Gail

  It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth -- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, we will then begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had.
Elisabeth Kubler Ross

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   Posted 1/10/2009 5:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Dear Candy,
Hope it is benign. We went through a period when mymother-in-law lived with us where they were watching a nodule on her lung...CT scans every month for several months, and mil was beside herself thinking she was dying of lung cancer. Turned out to be nothing, but that's all we heard about for days on end. "Do i have lung cancer?" was a daily question, and more often then not, several times a day, and i had to explain it to her over and over again. Of course, if it was cancer, she didn't want to do anything about it, because she didn't want her hair to fall out like mine did. ( So proud they can be, even in Depends!!! LOL)

So i feel for you. MIL and I had a great relationship through the years. When she lived with us, though, she was mentally not the same person anymore, and it was hard.

Good luck with your mom. And i'll be hoping for benign for her.

Big hugs...
"There's a difference between a philosophy and a bumper sticker."  --Charles Schulz

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   Posted 1/10/2009 9:20 AM (GMT -7)   
My mother and I sorta went through this same conversation. Except... she didn't want to get any more mammograms. There was no point, she wouldn't do anything if they did find something. So I told her how crazy that thinking was, because a lumpectomy could remove the lump and then she might not have any cancer problems the rest of her life, while on the other hand if she let it be she could really have cancer growing through out her body and suffer greatly. You might try that approach, it worked with Mother. Now tho she is 95 and her mind is nothing like it used to be.

She is still fiesty and does not like to be told what to do. She was talking to me on the phone and her monitor went off, a male nurse came to shut it off and asked her to move up on her bed further. She answered him in a very nasty tone, telling him she didn't like to be told what to do. OK so he leaves her room and within a minute the monitor is beeping again. He came back and told her if she moved up like he asked her the monitor would not beep again. So she said, "Oh OK" and moved right up. No more beeping during the conversation. The bad part is that the same scenario can play over and over and she doesn't remember what causes the beep. It is to alert the nurses she is getting up because of her broken hip fall.

prayers for you and your mom,

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   Posted 1/13/2009 3:44 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm sorry to hear about your mother.  I will be sending you positive vibes so that it will be B9.  I can imagine how hard it would be for both of you if it were cancer.  Hang in there.
L & H,

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   Posted 1/14/2009 7:42 AM (GMT -7)   

Thanks,for your thoughts and prayers.  The doc's office changed her appointment to tomorrow so we are in that hurry up and wait mode.  Mom is starting to worry and have some fear.  I KNOW what that is like.  I will keep you posted.  Hope all of you are well and try to stay warm!!

Love and Blessings to all of you,



Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: if one falls down, his friend can help him up.  Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

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