I am so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. You have been given some great advice from the ladies. I know how frightened you are, we have all traveled down that road. It has been 8 years since my initial diagnosis and 6 years since my recurrance. I still get nervous when I have to have the PET scan, etc.
Here are a couple of suggestions that I will share with you regarding your visit to the surgeon:
1. Write down any and all questions, such as the ones that you have asked in your post. It doesn't matter how silly or small they may seem. Then when you are meeting with your surgeon, ask those questions.
2. Take one or two peeps with you when you go for the appointment. You will be given loads of information, just a small amount that you will most likely retain. With 2 extra sets of ears and hands, you will not only have the answers to questions and discussion written down but you will also have others listening and retaining this info.
3. If you have a small recording device, take it with you. If ths surgeon says that he/she doesn't want the conversation recorded, then GET UP AND RUN.
4. If you don't feel comfortable with the surgeon, make an appointment with another one. Ask your friends who they like. The most important thing is that you have confidence in your medical team.
The first surgeon that I saw, I decided after about 5 mins that if he was the last surgeon on earth, he wouldn't touch me. The Lord led me to the most wonderful, caring surgeon and we are still friends today.
Just remember, we are here for you. We have been down the path that you are taking now. Ask your questions. Share your fears.