11/16 Updates on Melody & JenPossible

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   Posted 11/16/2004 7:04 AM (GMT -7)   
Unfortunately, I have been unable to reach Jen at her home number. I have left numerous messages that we are thinking about her, but I haven't gotten any response. Her cell phone message box is FULL. I am really worried about her.
I spoke with Mel's MIL yesterday. Things are basically the same. She sleeps most of the time from the pain meds, eats a little bit. MIL said Mel isn't making any effort to talk, either face-to-face or on the phone. MIL said that Mike & the boys visit occasionally, but I don't quite know what that entails. I'm sure they are handling this in their own way.
I know that Mel is so "tired" but her body's strength is still hanging in there. She is such an emotionally strong woman, but I wish she could "go" already. She and I have had many discussions and I can say with certainty that this is NOT what she wants.
I miss our phone calls. I miss the way we used to get stupid together on the phone. I wish I could TELL her I love her, even though she KNOWS it. I hate feeling like an intruder when I call. Sigh.
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   Posted 11/16/2004 7:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Oh dear, I have really been concerned about Jen. Now I am even more so. It really sounds like she is having a rough time. I will send another card and lots more prayers. Thanks for posting that you don't know.

That is about what Mel's mil told me, too. I can't believe Melody hangs on so. She has been in OK three months, it was a long time in San Antonio that hospice was going to her, too, wasn't it? About all we can do is send her our love and prayers. So sad.

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   Posted 11/16/2004 10:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you Michele for your update on our sisters. I know that Mel knows how much you love her. Keep saying it. I am sure that your calls are not an intrusion. I will have Mel in my prayers with you right along side. Peace be with you, her and her family.


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   Posted 11/16/2004 10:41 AM (GMT -7)   
She probably knows that you are calling to sending your love. Even if she can't respond. I know my heart breaks for her and I am in tears when I think of her. I always pray for her in church too. I pray that she isn't always here, you know. You here about so many peole that are in between Heaven and earth and actually are in Heaven for awhile. Love to you too Mikki. Di

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   Posted 11/16/2004 11:18 AM (GMT -7)   
My prayers are being offered for both of these women....and for all of us.


Mikki- Thanks for keeping us informed.
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   Posted 11/16/2004 4:20 PM (GMT -7)   

Sending YOU a big {{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}. Sounds like you could use one sweetie.

It is so sad when our friends are losing their battles.....SIGHHHHHHH.

Please know that I love you and am thinking of you, Mel and Jen.

God Bless,
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   Posted 11/16/2004 8:12 PM (GMT -7)   
Michele, I can hear the sorrow as I read your post. You've been a good friend to Mel and a generous new friend to Jen. Things are out of our hands now. We need to wait for G-d to miss Mel enough to say "it's time to come home." In the meantime, it's a painfully difficult time as we wait helplessly wishing there was something we could do. I'm hugging you, Mikki; it's all I can do to try to make you feel better. Love, Luci
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   Posted 11/17/2004 3:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks so much for the update. I am so sorry to hear the sadness in your post. This has to be so hard for you. Thanks again for keeping us informed. Hugs Joyce
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   Posted 11/17/2004 12:44 PM (GMT -7)   
That just makes me sad. I hope to G-d that they are not keeping things from Mel that we send. I haven't called in a while b/c I would always call around *bathtime*. I know Mel is tired, but that doesn't mean they couldn't hold the phone up to her and let her hear Mikki's voice telling her how she loves her dearly. IMO, that is harsh. Even if Mel can't talk, she can hear. Even when I had my brain tumors and wasn't talking, my family and friends still called and came over and just talked to me while I just looked at them. I heard EVERYTHING they said. I just couldn't respond. Thankfully the Novalis helped me that time. I understand how Mel felt when I called her once and she asked me to bear with her while she tried to gather the correct words to say. I was JUST like that at one point. I still have that problem, just not a severe, obviously. Now, apparently, she can't even speak and that breaks my heart. If she is aware enough to hear words I know she is aching inside b/c she can't say how she feels. My prayers are with her at this time. I don't know if Ian got my stickers I sent along with a recap of the Young and the Restless for Mel. I know that she couldn't watch it, but I asked if she would like me to send them and she said yes. I just hope that someone was good enough to read things to her if she desired to hear them.
Mikki, I am giving you a BIG HUG. I can't imagine how you are felling right now. Stay strong, just like our precious Mel. Although, you and I know we are not as graceful about it as she is.
L&H, Shelley

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Post Edited (Shells) : 11/17/2004 12:47:38 PM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 11/17/2004 8:10 PM (GMT -7)   
Hugs and prayers to us all, especially Mel and Jen.

I hope that Mel is comfortable, despite her increasing sleep. She is loved and I hope takes peace in that.


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