You've been on my mind yesterday, since I so related to you. I haven't been on, so I didn't know about it until now. I am truly sorry you've been afflicted. I remember first thing I allowed myself to think when I was told was "Oh great, now I'm going to have to be one of those brave survivors and probably have to go on those walks for life!!! I couldn't even think about the real mortal issues that I was faced with. I got into action mode, which it looks like you are doing. It's very adaptive. Just don't let anyone make you think because you're not acting sick that you're not feeling it later on. Remember that!
As for wanting to stay informed, there are great books, but don't get crazy and buy too much, you could go broke at this sensitive spot in your life. I've seen women (me included) do some spending after being diagnosed, be careful of that. I was particularly dangerous at the bookstore. I found one book a great reference for making decisions, giving the pro's and cons and really explaining what the things mean. Please look up my profile for my email, and I will gladly respond to your email with the title and author. I don't think I'm allowed to recommend reference material here, but I'm not sure.
My situation and Rita's (ardee) mirror each other. We were a week apart in dx, and treatment. I wish you the same blessing of going through this with a recently diagnosed sister. Maybe some others can steer you towards them, I'm not sure who they are because I've got a lot going on right now and can't give the board the attention I would otherwise. I found that contact with women at my stage most helpful.
I was, as I said, 38, and went for the lumpectomy and sentinal node biopsy. I also did chemo, a rather heavy dose of it, and radiation. Do what you think will give you the most "safe" feeling, and of course, what you can live with. I am truly glad they will work with your insurance company. Mine was great, too, but I'm afraid we may not be in the majority. I'm glad you don't have that worry.
I, too, did the surgery in a major city, the chemo was coordinated locally. Doing the surgery at a major breast center gave me a very safe feeling. I'm right with you on that one. There are also sisters in Ky. And we all go with you to your various doctor's appointments in spirit. Please post often. I want to be there for you.
I truly hope you find some comfort in these pages and find the love and caring I found. These are amazing women.