Oh, I am so there with you! I had a lot of the same stuff to deal with, little one was hard, he knew something was seriously wrong. My dh, well, he was almost out on his ear. Supportive was not the word of the day. He did not handle the cancer at all, even tried to tell me that he wasn't so sure that it really was cancer, but the doctors just trying to make money by treating me and billing the insurance. He'd voice his suspicions a couple of times, at a prime time, when I was sick, because he couldn't handle it. OOOHHHH was I mad. Real validating. I remember saying to him "Honey, I'll survive this, but I don't know if we will." It was really rough. From what I remember, you have a great DH, who's supportive. I couldn't even say that much at the time. Point is, though, it wound up being okay, I trained him, granted, but he wound up doing what I needed him to do. Sometimes they just are clueless. At the cancer center in NYC, (Beth Israel) there were pamphlets for husbands. Like he would have looked at it, but maybe yours will. I have a video for kids with bc moms to watch. If you want it, email me.
I remember this site really got me through it. I was on every night, always posting, really got to know the ladies. Even went to a gathering while on chemo. It was wonderful.
Please keep venting. I pray you make a decision that your heart led you to. An old friend said three little words to me once when I was all over the place, ten years ago, now, and I never forgot it.
follow your heart.
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius