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   Posted 1/7/2005 3:57 AM (GMT -7)   
good morning
I had a bit of a shock last night.  After my surgery, they put on my sports bra and wrapped a very long ace bandage around my breasts.  It's been over two days and I was wrapped too tight.  tongue    Anyway, I went in the bathroom and took everything off and I got my first look at my incisions.  I cried.  They look awful!  I have one that's about two inches where the actual tumor was and I have another one longer in my arm pit where they removed some lymph nodes.  I have the hole where the drain tube is and I have another scar where the port is.  I look like I've been in a knife fight and lost!  I also have a very small scar where another node was taken out.  It sure felt good to take off the bra and the bandage.  Everything is starting to wake up and it hurts!  Sometimes it feels like I'm being stabbed with a red hot ice pick!  Doc gave me some Vicadin and it helps.  It still feels numb too, partly.  It's weird! 
Anyway, just wanted to share a little.  I'm ok now, but first sight was a shock.  I'm wondering how any man would find that attractive.  I shouldn't be worrying about that, but the thought crossed my mind.  My daughter told me if he loves me it won't matter, so....silly me. eyes
I'll let you guys know more later when I go to the doc, ok?  Talk to you later.

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   Posted 1/7/2005 6:19 AM (GMT -7)   
The first look is always a shock.  It does get better.  The redness and angry looks goes away.  Just think about how much healthier you are with it gone. The hot ice pick pokes are just nerve endings yelling at you.  That will go away and the numbness is very normal.  A year and a half later I still have some numbness.  Stay ahead of the pain by taking the meds when you are suppose to.  Don't put it off because you feel better.  Continue to rest and heal. 
Your daughter is right, if he loves YOU, your appearance should not matter at any level.
Thanks for sharing your concerns.  It always help to tell someone who has experienced what you are right now.  Hang in there.
I have you in my prayers,

Many Blessings for the New Year



Life may not be the party

 we hoped for,

but while we are here we might as

well dance.

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   Posted 1/7/2005 6:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Tamaralynn-
Each day should look better and better. The incisions are still fresh and irritated from the bandages. The discoloration will fade and the shape will change...the breast will never be the same, but often it sort of fills in some where the tissue was removed. My scar is faint. They took a huge amount of my breast though because I had a lumpectomy and then a re-excision, so I lost a lot.

The scars also represent reality, that you have been diagnosed and treatment is underway. And that takes some getting used to also.

As for whether a man will love you, that is a concern that most of us go through, whether we are in a relationship or not at the time of surgery. If a man is not interested becuase of a dent in your breast, then he is not worth having around. IMO...

Gentle hugs-

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   Posted 1/7/2005 8:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Just remember this is not the finished product yet. I know it does not look good, how could it? You have had surgery. I remember when I had a lumpectomy my surgeon apologized and suggested sending me to a PS surgeon because my breast had a big dent in it. I told him I was not planning on dancing topless so it didn't matter, I knew it would fill in in time on its own and it did. The scar lines fade in time, too. All will be fine and you have your life. Hugs and prayers. Mary K.

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   Posted 1/7/2005 10:50 AM (GMT -7)   
You need to give your body time to heal and let the scars fade, and that will happen. Lori is right, your breast will never look the same. I had a post-surgical infection and had to have the incision opened to let it drain. As a result, I have a pretty big divot in my breast. But, you know what? That's OK. The cancer is gone. And, your daughter is a wise person. Any man who cannot love you no matter how your chest looks is not worth your time or worthy of your affections. You are a wonderful, beautiful person no matter what your breast looks like. Hugs, Lauri
"Go confidently into the direction of your dreams. Live the life you always imagined" Thoreau
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

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   Posted 1/7/2005 11:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Yes, it's quite a shock. I echo everyone else when I say it's a temporary condition. 16 months later I still have some pink scars and some numbness. It certainly doesn't heal overnight. But it will get better each day. Just rejoice in the fact that it's gone, and take your meds when you're supposed to. I'm praying for you.


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