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   Posted 1/10/2005 10:20 PM (GMT -7)   
Well, I sent out the dissertations today.  I had a panic attack in the post office.  No kidding.  By the time I was done mailing them out there were ten people waiting, out the door.  I couldn't breathe.  I didn't know if I should broadcast all over my office or just be quiet about it.  I was pretty freaked.   I also bit the head off my supervisor. 
He had said said " Wow, Must be strange, all those years of work in those little packages." 
He has a problem with my discipline, it's not his, he's a social worker, I don't care about that stuff, but he does and shows it by his attitude.  He doesn't hold a lot of respect for Ph.D's.  I confronted him on his saying that, he denied saying "little."  I said I was offended and I resented it.  I said it was very big indeed.  He sort of apologized, and then I sort of apologized for biting his head off. 
I need some feedback.  This was about two hours after the panic attack, and I may have been a little nuts.  Rita, especially, knows all about Charlie.  Was I oversensitive or was that a dig?   I hate that it-could-be-interpreted-a-couple-of-ways  BS
I know you're going on little, so you all have my permission to tell me exactly what I want to hear LOLOLOLOL
He definately picked the wrong day.
The receptionist said when I was out of the kitchen "I guess she'll leave now"  (I had a spy in there) No one said much, from what I heard.  I am looking at fellowships, but I'd like the option of staying and getting my loans paid, I do love them so (charlie excepted, of course)  Oh, what changes!!!
I also get afraid that my breasts are riddled with cancer, like every day.  Anybody relate??????
Go Jets  The team that brings you the ulcer

"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius


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   Posted 1/11/2005 7:08 AM (GMT -7)   


Whoa Nellie! 

Ok, first thing is that the BIG thing is in the mail.

Second:  I have found that a lot of people with authority have a passive agressive streak in them.  Ignore it.

Third:  I am glad you supported yourself, now move to being the soon to be Ph.D. you know you can be. 

Fourth:  Look at all the options you have in front of you.  I know you really love the people you work with now, but some times change is the best, especially at a new level of experience and education. 

Fifth:  The breast cancer fear is in all of us and will always be with us.  Last Thursday I had my plastic surgeon once again checking and double checking my breast, my path reports, and my psyche because I find new bumps, lumps and soreness in my normal breast and reconstructed breast everyday!!!!

Sixth:  CONGRATULATIONS on getting it in the mail.  I have the 24th marked for prayers for successful defense.

Love and hugs,


Many Blessings for the New Year



Life may not be the party

 we hoped for,

but while we are here we might as

well dance.

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   Posted 1/11/2005 9:47 AM (GMT -7)   
All I can say is that I am in AWE of you getting this accomplished and going through all you have been through. You can bite anybody's head off as far as I am concerned and be justified in doing so. You are one superb young woman who did it!!!! I just can't tell you how proud I am of you. Like I birthed you, LOL. Celebrate, celebrate celebrate today. We'll be with you on the 24th, I actually have it marked on my calendar. The only thing that is marked as a matter of fact. LOL. I need to go through the old one and mark birthdays and all. Give yourself a super hug and if anyone messes with you the rest of the day, there is the Texas salute you can use. Love, MK

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   Posted 1/11/2005 11:53 AM (GMT -7)   
Oh, Ellen!!!! You did it!!!!! What self-control you have not to be jumping up and down in the post office! I would have been telling everyone I could find what I had just done. And of course I'll be there on the 24th. Wouldn't miss it for anything!!!

Charlie's comment seems harmless, but given his past performances, I might be suspicious of his motives myself.

I am so extremely happy for you, girlfriend!!!! You did it!!!!! Woohoo!!


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   Posted 1/11/2005 3:29 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Ellen..

Congratulations ...what an accomplishment. Please know that
we are all so proud of you !!

Love and hugs

Sometimes it is a slender thread, Sometimes a strong,
stout rope; She clings to one end, I the other;
She calls it friendship; I call it hope....

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   Posted 1/11/2005 4:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey, Ellen, high fives and congratulations on finishing your disseratation. You should be so darned proud of yourself. Don't let some insensative rube bring you down. What you have done is a BIG deal regardless of the size of the package. Hold your head up high and know that you did good, girl. Hugs, Lauri
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   Posted 1/11/2005 7:27 PM (GMT -7)   
I will now have the 24th marked on my calendar. I am also in awe of you. You have every reason to be so proud! You deserve a huge celebration. Maybe a trip. Hugs and lots of love, Di

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   Posted 1/11/2005 7:30 PM (GMT -7)   
P.S. Just last week, Dean was telling me how it felt to be standing in the hall after his defense. Then they came out and said, "Congratulations Doctor."

Grandma Cathy
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   Posted 1/11/2005 7:38 PM (GMT -7)   
Dr. Ellen,

You are absolutely the bestest! Keep it up! Forget all of the other people that want to knock you down - enjoy - celebrate your greatness!! (Oh - "I am now hearing 'Granny's' voice - "No matter what - do not sink to their level - pull yourself up by your bootstraps and enjoy what YOU HAVE EARNED!!") You make us all sooooo proud!!

L & H,

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   Posted 1/11/2005 8:13 PM (GMT -7)   

Include me in on your celebration for your HUGE accomplishment!!!!!!

I will be waiting with the others to hear your good news.


Doing a happy dance for you here in rain soakin OHIO.

Love ya,
^j^ ^j^

"What sweetness is left in life if you take away friendship? It is like robbing the world of the sun"

Post Edited (cupycake2) : 1/11/2005 8:37:54 PM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 1/12/2005 7:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Wow Dr Ellen!
Just wanted to chime in with my congratulations too. That's real awesome you have finished.
L & H

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   Posted 1/12/2005 2:40 PM (GMT -7)   
All I can say is CONGRATULATIONS!!!  This is such a big thing for you.  Now we will call you Dr.
L & H,

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   Posted 1/12/2005 8:01 PM (GMT -7)   
I am copying and pasting this whole string!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am crying!
Thank you so much, girls!!!
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius


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   Posted 1/13/2005 8:33 PM (GMT -7)   

Congratulations!!!!!  I have been having chemo and getting my Master's in Education this past year.  I graduate in March.  I envy you the Doctorate but after this year - don't want anything else to do with a degree.  It was hard but DH wanted me to stick with it - and he was right because it helped me keep a focus on something besides the big c.

Don't worry about the attitude.  Sometimes when I hear other teachers or people in general whining about little inconsequential things, I go "off the chain" as my boys say, and say "try fighting cancer, raising three boys, teaching 1st grade and going to grad school AND keeping a 4.0 average!!!!!  They kinda shut up then. HA HA  It's also what I tell my two sons who are in college and complain about classes.  My oldest said "God, Mom, why did you get cancer?  You just keep throwing it in my face when I try to complain about a bad day."  I just laugh and say because, obviously, I could handle it a lot better than YOU!!!

God Bless!!!!

Teresa King

Jeremiah 29:11 - "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."


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   Posted 1/14/2005 5:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Ellen, or should I call you Dr now! Somehow I missed this wonderful post about your awesome achievement. You go girl! I am so proud of you and I know you have worked so hard on this in spite of everything else you have been going through. Happy Dancin in Louisville....doin the Electric slide in your honor!

Congratulations on hanging in there and making it happen!

Sara Dearing
Today is a gift, that's why they call it the present!

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   Posted 1/14/2005 7:47 AM (GMT -7)   
And Teresa you deserve some kudoes, too, going through all that and still working on your masters. Be sure to keep us informed when the time comes so we can celebrate with you, too. It is not far off from the sound of things. Congratulations!!! Hugs MK

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   Posted 1/14/2005 6:02 PM (GMT -7)   


Way to go, wahoo!! That's a lot of blood, sweat and tears. And it's done!

I sincerely hope you rewarded yourself. And maybe give yourself another award for not drop kicking 'ole Charlie horse (or should I say, a horse's cousin?) He sounds like one of those people you just have to keep saying things like "Bite me!" to. Forget him. The important thing is that it is mailed!

As the Brits say, "Good on ya!"



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