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Date Joined Dec 2004
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   Posted 2/24/2005 6:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi everyone here, Im feeling a bit low at the moment broke down last night been keeping things to myself and everything is too much. My partner got the brunt of it all as hes all that is supporting in my area and I can't change the situation. I have told my nurse, gp, support worker, family and friends but no one can help me and I just get ignored  by everyone I so feel so alone now. I won't go out the house and im not eating properly just sit around in my pj's hoping I will come across someone who live in my area Hull UK. My mum knows how I feel but i don't get no visits from anyone and no phone calls now. I want the situation to change but Im now not strong enough to try again ans make the first move for them to listen and i know they won't come to me.  My partner has even tried to get them to take notice but it dos'nt change. I have to face  up to the fact they don't care and I find it so painful that they can be like this when you get diagnosed with breast cancer. My emotions have defintly been put to the test here. It is hard to move on from this. I would be grateful for some advice please. Thanks for letting me off load I've needed too for a while.
Sheldon x

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Date Joined Jul 2003
Total Posts : 829
   Posted 2/24/2005 6:44 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm glad you decided to vent and get that over with. Why don't you take a deep breath and let us know what has happened. When was the diagnosis and what has been done since? What kind of treatment have they told you you would need?

Everyone of us knows what a life-shattering experience we had when we were told we had b/c so you've got plenty of shoulders to lean on. Let us know what we can do to help you. You've found a place with the most amazing women's support group. Sometimes people don't call or visit because they just don't know what to say. They just don't realize how much it hurts.

Sending warm hugs to you, Jo-Ann
A good friend will bail you out of jail...
but a true friend will be sitting
next to you saying,
"Dâmn... that was fun!".

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Date Joined Feb 2005
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   Posted 2/24/2005 11:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi! I am glad that you came here to vent. We all need to do that every-so-often.
As Jo-Ann said, some people don't come to visit because they don't know what to say or how to act. It is sad but true. It doesn't matter whether your support system is made up of 20 people or just 2. As long as they are there for you and care, count yourself fortunate. Outside of my 2 daughters, my family is not a part of my support system.
Please let us know what has happened.

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Date Joined Jul 2003
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   Posted 2/25/2005 6:27 AM (GMT -7)   

Please, if you are comfortable, give us more information about yourself. We can be a huge support system and joyously ask for the priviledge. Sometimes it is OK to just have one very important person in you life that supports you. BUT, you are your greatest support person. You need to concentrate on getting healthy. Fight your fears and stay strong. Educate yourself. Knowledge is power and it helps in the healing process. All of your other concerns can be helped later when you are stronger in mind and body. They will all still be with you. They are a part of your life and they too will start to come around after shock and the feeling of helplessness goes away.

I will have you in my prayers.



 Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of one's friend springs from his earnest counsel.

Proverbs 27:9

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Date Joined Aug 2003
Total Posts : 248
   Posted 2/25/2005 8:54 AM (GMT -7)   
As all of us can attest, living with a breast cancer diagnosis and treatment sends us on an emotional rollercoaster, even under the best circumstances. Tell us more about yourself to allow us to better help you. Know that you are not alone! Frayda
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