I'm so sorry you are having to go through this with your Mom. But I'm glad for her that she has you and you found us here! I'm new here this week but was diagnosed January 24, 2005. This site and the wonderful women here will help both of you during this chaos. I've found someone within 20 miles of me within days. And it helps to know that there are so many women here who have quite a few years of surviving this horrible disease.
One piece of advice I want to give is to be informed, read, read and read some more. If your Mom is the kind of person who likes to research she should too. Some people don't like to do too much reading in the beginning. I grabbed up 8 books at the library within 48 hours of getting the news. And the most valuable book I found I now own. It's Dr. Susan Love's Breast Book. There are several versions so try to locate the latest edition. It is very informative with everything from breast develpment, latest tests and treatments of BC and everything in between.
Please let us know if there is anything we can do for you and your Mom. It takes a while for the shock to wear off but once it does you both will see that this is something she can deal with and get beyond.
Oh, one more thing. I've found that by not keeping the BC a secret in my world that I've met some wonderful LONG term survivors (20+ years) and have had at least 2,000 people praying for me. This is not the "hushed" disease that it once was. Don't hold it in, let others know so they can offer their help.
We will be thinking and praying for you both!
Snowflakes are one of nature's most fragile things, but just look what they can do when they stick together.
-Vesta M. Kelly