Sorry you are in this situation, but you are RIGHT. The ONLY way they can tell 100% is a biopsy. They can give educated guesses, and many times are correct, BUT sometimes as we on this board know all too well, they are wrong. Please insist on a biopsy. If they say no, find another DR. It is not worth taking the chance, especially when you have kids. It is 80% chance it is benign, but you need to know for sure.
I know otheres here are going to tell you the same thing. Probably most if not all. You are sure to get more responses.
We are here for you no matter what, so please take a deep breath and come back, ok? Their also may be one of us near you, we are all over the place.
Hang in there sweetie, and keep in touch, L&H, Gail
It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth -- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, we will then begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had. Elisabeth Kubler Ross