Yes, it is traumatic. I went to a place in Pontiac and hated it, and when the lady said "Oh, you are going to do chemo? Don't worry, it'll grow back." I knew it was not the place for me. That told me she really did not understand the emotions of what we experience. I went to a wonderful place in South Lyon but I forgot the name. It was Vanity Room wigs or something....they have private rooms and the ladies are so kind...this is all they do, is fit wigs and mostly for people dealing with chemo. They also are specialists in post-mastectomy fittings. The wigs there were priced well, and were synthetic hair. I tried to match my curly hair, and ended up like Barbra Mandrell or some country star. I hated it. I went to another person to have the wig fixed, after my regular girl cut it. We had to remove some stitching to make it smaller and not so overpowering for my small face. I still hated it, and we ended up getting a new one at Roxy's in West Bloomfield. The wig was half real, half synthetic, but much more expensive.
What I ended up with was a beautiful color and different than my hair, sort of a Jane Fonda wispy look. I have heard that Susan's Specialty Needs in Ferndale is really good. I would not order one online, because you will want to try it on, feel it, see it, etc. You can also talk to the American Cancer Society, and ask for referrals to a wig bank if you need one for free or low cost.
My opinion is that if you are going to wear the wig, and not so much hats or scarves, you have to get a wig that you like and feel comfortable in.
Hang in there!