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   Posted 4/22/2005 3:51 PM (GMT -7)   
Called back the attorney that my cousin had sent me to, her cousin.  After telling their nurse my story, what the doc said and what happened to me as a result, she consulted with the partners. 
Turns out that they don't want my case because it's "not worth anything."  Because I had a termination, there are "no damages."  You can't sue for pain and suffering for something like this in this state.  She said that no judge would hear the case because the law doesn't recognize these damages in this state
Had this happened 15 miles away, in New Jersey, I'd have a case that was "worth something", as the law is different there and they recognize the pain and suffering of what I went through there.
I am pretty good at finding the positive in things.  I'm in no different a situation than I was before the phone call, and at least what I went through was "worth something" somewhere, which, were I in a better place, would be somewhat validating.  It was like all the emotions tied up in what I went through bubbled up this afternoon.    I pulled a friend into my office, cried, was angry, cursed and just kept getting upset.  I, of course, had a group to run in ten minutes.  It wasn't a good situation.  I did it with showing a movie and then talking about it, so I could just not have to be "on" for an hour and a half.  During the drive home I talked to myself, yelling and yelling and crying, pretending I was talking to a friend about it.
No one can really help me with this.  There's nothing to say.  I have to tell DH, who will be hurt, too.  I have mega student loans, and this would have made me independent, but I made my bed when I took out the loans, and I shouldn't be angry over that.  I wasn't counting on a case, either, but I'm furious that another state recognizes it but not this one.  I wish, oh how I wish I could fight and get the doctor for what he did to me.
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius


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   Posted 4/22/2005 4:17 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Ellen, I'm sorry you got caught up in a mess and couldn't find a solution, either. You know my situation.... how I carry around this huge hernia, well no one wanted my case, because it wasn't a "sure thing". As a result I was in a class action suit and got very little compensation compared to what it should have been. And uniquely, I could have pushed a little further by filing my case with a New Jersey lawyer to try to get more. Now TX is a long way from NJ, but maybe those who live there know something we didn't? LOL I know hugs can't help much when you really wanted some retribution, but it is all I can offer.............. Hugs and love, MK

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   Posted 4/22/2005 4:55 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm so sorry you're having to go through this, Ellen. It's just salt on the wound. Wonder what's going on in New Jersey that they recognize pain and suffering when other states don't? Wish things had turned out differently, but I'm glad it's all behind you. Forget about it for now and keep your eyes on that graduation next month. I'll be thinking about you.


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   Posted 4/23/2005 7:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Ellen, I am so sorry you got that news yesterday. The same thing happened here to me when that surgeon almost killed me putting in the port. I had a two week hospital stay, chest tubes, tests, blah, blah. The attorneys offices told me since I was geting better, there was nothing they could do. Excuse me, if I spilled a cup of coffee on my lap I'd be a millionaire. Ellen, scream all you want, helps a bit. Hope you can have a better day today.

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   Posted 4/24/2005 7:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Ellen, that is horrible. I don't know what to say. But your pain is worth something here, and if there is anything we can do to help, please let us know. This was not an easy road for you, and to have it dismissed so lightly must make it even harder. There is only one way to go, and that is forward. I hope the days become easier. Remember, you made the best decisions you could for your situation, and you can still make plenty of a stink around that doctor to keep everyone but horseflies away from him...there's the state medical board, reporters, and lots of others that might agree that your pain is worth something.

Love and hugs...

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   Posted 4/24/2005 8:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Dear Ellen..sure wish I could give you an in person hug....

Your pain and suffering is real and the fact that different States
recognize it and others dont is nuts....

Know that we love you

Sometimes it is a slender thread, Sometimes a strong,
stout rope; She clings to one end, I the other;
She calls it friendship; I call it hope....

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   Posted 4/25/2005 5:06 AM (GMT -7)   


The laws were made to protect and serve the citizens of this great coutry and states.  They seem to be very picky about which citizen though.  I am sorry you have had another frustrating experience.

My prayers are with you to find some peace and strength to continue in your life.  You have good things to dwell on sweetie. 

Love and hugs,



 Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of one's friend springs from his earnest counsel.

Proverbs 27:9

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