Post Edited (Tavish) : 4/29/2005 9:13:21 AM (GMT-6)
OK now I'm scared, 20-25lbs, I'm 30lbs over weight now and trying to lose. That was my biggest fear getting fat, how vain, but thea t is what I worry about. Plus I will have to stop smoking to be on the Tamoxifen, is there anything else beside that, that I could take.
Oh well whatever I have to do I will. I work in an office and have no kids at home, just a great husband, and my dog. So I plan on working and staying as active as possible.
I think the only thing they are going to do in the surgery is the lumpectomy and check the lymp nodes. I have a meeting with my doc on Tuesday before the surgery.
Ok, I'm in information overload. I am going to ask the surgeon what she is going to do as far as the lmpynodes go, then after I have all the information, I'm going to meet with the top oncologist in Boston to see what my treatment plan is. Dr. Burstein (the onco) has my first pathology report now, and will get the second one as soon as I get it. I will then go from there.
I have to keep a good attitude to beat this and keep my sanity, which is now starting to slip.
Ok bring it on, with all of you I can do this.
Just one of those days, I guess it is finally sinking in. But I will fight this with all I have. I have a great husband and he will be my main support along with my family.
I can't worry about little things like getting fat and going bald, I have to look at the big picture and that is getting heatlhy again.
Like I said I will have my good days and bad, got to keep the chin up.
I will continue to keep all you wondeful ladies posted as I move along this new path.
Dear Snufflesmom, I won't comment on your path. report. I had enough difficulty figuring out my own. I'll just say that it does have some very positive factors in your favor.
What I am concerned about is that your dr's opinion that a mastectomy would be "overkill." My question is "overkill" for whom?? I know that sounds harsh, but my point is this. Your dr. needs to guide you factually, not make a statement using emotionally overcharged words like "overkill." Have you researched both options?? Only YOU can decide which of the two options is best for you. You need solid factual information before you make a decision about what's going to done.
I KNOW you're on overload now AND that emotionally you're spinning around. Try to take some deep breaths and relax for just a few moments. Then get a piece of paper, either fold it in half up and down or draw a vertical line down the center. Label one side lumpectomy and the other mastectomy. Write down every positive OR negative you can think of for each one. You may also want to do some add'l research on both topics. You'll be surprised at how much info. you'll be able to find. Once you've got real facts, then you're ready to go back to your dr. armed (and I use that word in its most literal sense) and discuss what's to be done.
One thing we've all learned here on this board is that "knowledge is power." In the midst of this tremendous emotional blow you've rec'd, you're expected to make a logical decision on the type of surgery you'll have. It will take some real will power on your part, but YOU will decide the best course for YOU.
We have all been exactly where you are at this moment in time. Whatever decision you make needs to be yours and yours alone. I hope this helps. Hugs, Luci