My surgeon never said that having a port inserted wouldn't hurt. He put it in during my first mastectomy. Mine hurt like the devil for about
three weeks, then it settled down. It was inserted in Jan of 1996 on my left side. In Jan of 2000, I had to have a left mastectomy and told the surgeon to, please, save the port. He did.
It is a little uncomfortable now and then, but mostly when one of the grandchildren sits in my lap and, occasionally, the seatbelt in my car rubs again it. Also, I sleep with my arms around a body pillow. It protects the site.
Having had bilateral mastectomies and a left arm with severe lympedema, I am glad that I have that port. We've been together almost ten years.
I didn't have chemobrain before my treatments but I was so scared that I didn't have any room left in the brain to store information. If it hadn't been for my mother and several friends, I would have been more of a public embarrassment than I was.
You will get through this. The pain will settle down and the port will definitely save important veins in your arm.
A good friend will bail you out of jail...
but a true friend will be sitting
next to you saying,
"Dâmn... that was fun!".