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   Posted 10/27/2005 7:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Well, I'm doing it.  I've bought a couple of tickets to Maine for Veteran's day weekend.  Matthew and I are going to look for a house to rent starting in January.  I'll be working in an indian reservation school, and will have school vacations and summers off and get my loans paid.  DH was freaking.  He can't move with me at first, and really doesn't want to move at all, but is (finally) willing to be, or at least try to be supportive.  He told his mother that he has no choice--that when he tells me he doesn't want me to go I start to get upset.  He must feel like he's over a barrell.  Things were really really hard for us these past couple of weeks.  He's been really upset, but last night when I offered to stay, he finally said he would try to be supportive and stop griping and putting me through hell.
I offered to not go if he really didn't want me to, but when I did, I started crying.  He couldn't do that to me.  He wants me to be happy and I wouldn't be unless I gave this a try.  I'm risking a bit, the job I have now pays my loans and I have some benefits of having been there almost five years.  I'm losing that and if I don't want to stay in ME, I'll be out of the loan-repayment program and out of a job.  It's a risk, and my feet are getting a little chilly!
I can't help but think about all I've been through.  I didn't survive cancer to flounder here working with sex offenders.  I would really like to be someplace nice and calm and happy.  I've been looking into things he'd need to run his business up there, and there are ways to pull it off even if the people in Maine are clannish and don't want to order from him because he's not from Maine.  His biggest customer said he'd continue to order from him. 
Boy!  This is hard!  I'm really disoriented at work, too.  I'm like gone from there in my head.  Yesterday I thought it was Thursday, and stayed in my office while everybody was in the weekly Wednesday morning staff meeting.  Good thing, too.  They unanimously decided that my supervisor's skits were not welcome at the Holdiay Party this year.  He was absent that day, so I can tell him I wasn't there, so I didn't vote on it.  He's got a pretty wierd sence of humor, kinda not funny, just way out.  Still, it reminded me of M*A*S*H* when he staged the skits.  Kinda made the place liveable.  The people in power are very small minded and probably didn't care that he really will be a little put out.   It made the place human that they put up with the wierd stuff and sort of indulged in it.  Now there's an era ending.  Cindy, the office manager is leaving, and that means that there will be no buffer between the director and the staff, and believe me, she needs a buffer!  I am personally very glad to be out of there.
I'm just glad he's not as miserable as he's been.  Hopefully we'll be okay.
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius


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   Posted 10/27/2005 7:12 PM (GMT -7)   
Glad you found peace in your decision....good luck and keep us posted along the way...


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   Posted 10/27/2005 9:17 PM (GMT -7)   
I am so happy for you.  It all sounds so exciting!
Best of luck to you all in Maine!
"What sweetness is left in life if you take away friendship? It is like robbing the world of the sun"

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   Posted 10/27/2005 10:21 PM (GMT -7)   
Somehow I don't think the people in Maine could be worse than the ones you are working with now. Let's see how the situation plays out on a scale. One side has you working with sex offenders and the other working with children on an Indian reservation. Hummmm! Easy to see which way to go.

You have worked so hard and so long for something like this and I am very happy for you. Imagine all these children calling you "dr". I do hope that things will work out for you and your family. I think you have earned the right to spread your wings a little and fly. You go, girl. We are all so proud of you.

Love, Jo-Ann
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but a true friend will be sitting
next to you saying,
"Dâmn... that was fun!".

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   Posted 10/28/2005 9:02 AM (GMT -7)   
I agree with Jo-Ann, Ellen, you have been through alot and I think it would be better for you to work with the children. How rewarding to be helping children! ! And they will love you Dr Ellen! I pray things work out great for you and your husband, and you both find a new breath of fresh air!
Love you, Gail
"Inside this body lies that of a skinny lady.  But I can usually shut her up with chocolate.".

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