Thank you Straydog for your kind words and advice, it means more to me than you can imagine
My sister has a rare condition called stiff person syndrome where the muscles stiffen up progressively. They don’t know a whole lot about
it and it is not curable, but medicines slow the progression. It is hard for her to walk as muscle spasms cause a lot of pain, and she spends most of her time in bed. It has only been this bad for the last two years. My Mother has been taking care of my sister’s daughters long before it got to this point. My sister always had a reason to not be there 100 percent for her kids, because she was either too depressed, or had insomnia and couldn’t sleep at night so my mom would come over to her apartment and take care of the girls during the day so my sister could sleep. Then my sister started to get back pain and it got worse over the years, so my Mother decided to move in with her.
I don’t want to upset my Mom. I will not. It is so hard to stand by and see this. My Mother takes care of everything, and doesn’t take care of. herself. She sleeps on a couch, and doesn’t even have tv to watch because she can’t afford it. But my sister bought herself and her two daughters cell phones, and video games etc. my Mother takes care if my sister Andy her kids before she take some care of herself. I worry about
her constantly, because she Is killing herself taking care of my sister’s problems. I have given my Mother money, and it all goes to stuff my sister wants. I tell my mom to save it, and the next thing I know, they are behind in their rent, and ask for more money to the point I don’t have anymore to give. Now they are being taken to court because they are behind on their rent, and my Mom is dealing with all of this.
My sister does not do a thing, but dictate to my Mother. My Mother is 76, and now facing cancer. I feel I have to do something. This can’t be how her life turns out. This is a living nightmare.
I am sorry about
another rant. I feel so helpless and hopeless. Tomorrow my Mother gets surgery to take I the lump out is what she told me. I am leaving to see her in the am. It’s a 3 hour drive from where I live. The hospital will not tell me any information, and my Mother is impossible to get a hold of by phone, as no one answers their cell phones. I am so uptight about
what I will find out. I also will hate to leave her tomorrow evening as I have to drive back home as I have to work the next day.
I don’t think I will see her for Thanksgiving. She does not have it where she lives, and she would never let me take her to my house and leave my sister. I also don’t know if she will still be in the hospital. I struggle with that and trying to make Thanksgivig as normal and happy here at hone for my daughter.
I love my Mother so much, this is killing me inside.
I am sorry for such a long reply. It just feels a little better to vent and get it out. I am hoping tomorrow I get some more answers about
her condition at the hospital, because it has been hard to get her to tell me everything. I would have never found out If my brother didn’t tell my other sister who told me.