Husband breast lump

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   Posted 2/8/2018 12:58 PM (GMT -6)   
I think we first noticed this about a year ago. I tried everything from blackmail, to asking his family, pleading and more to get this assessed.

He didn't. Partly because life has been tough but mainly because like everything else it moved below the priority list.

I have been checking it time and time and it seemed to get larger. Today its surely larger and he realized that too.

Its hard and not necessarily movable.

I am going to hate myself for not kicking up a huge scene if required and not taking him to hospital a year earlier if this turns out to be malignant.

He is going into see a doctor today or tomorrow - even if it means I have to go on a hunger strike or whatever :'(

I am looking for reassurance maybe that because its a year, its possibly not cancer. I am going insane again. He has no idea how many times I have broken down crying while I lived in another country worry about this. I know how real the risk is.

Hubby is 47-48 years old, no family histories of cancer as far as we know. He is rather active and don't know is this matters but he's always had very high natural testosterone relative to age

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   Posted 2/9/2018 10:57 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello & welcome to Healing Well. By now hopefully your husband has seen the dr & has an idea what this lump may be. I know you are beyond terrified, if you read any of the posts in this forum you saw terror in them. The fear of cancer is horrible for anyone. This could very well be an infection or even a benign cyst.

You need to stop blaming yourself. There is nothing you could have done since he refused to see a dr about this. We cannot force people to see drs.

Please let us know what the dr has to say. Take care.
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   Posted 2/10/2018 12:02 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you for the support Susie. We couldn't get an appointment - so likely Monday or Tuesday. Hubby is simple with these things and doesn't comprehend why I am a complete mess. I have broken down alone so many times and cried my eyes out about this.

I am so worried.

I understand he doesn't want to start worrying if its nothing and I wish I could be so chilled. I do worry because medically the hardness of it, the immobility of it are not good signs.. Hubby's overall health seems fine though.

Whatever the result I will come back and post on here. Its painful to find so many posts with no update once a doctor was seen. Hopefully, because they are all good news, however I would like to offer that to whoever reads this post in the future.
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