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   Posted 2/14/2006 4:15 AM (GMT -7)   
Most of you do not remember Shells. She was not able to sit at her computer for some time.  I am sorry to say she lost her battle last night and is now another of our angels to be remembered. She fought every inch of the way and left her daughter many cards and pictures and letters to hallmark each and every special event that she would not be there to share. She had her best friend go through every album and explained each and every silly picture to her, so someday Katie will be able to explain them to her daughter. Shells took some silly pictures that she said needed explaining to be funny. I never remember Shells complaining until one treatment took away her taste for chocolate. After all she had been through without a complaint she really let me know about that one. Anyone that ever did the chats with Shells knows when she turned up the chat turned to chocolate. I hate this disease and have had a couple of very rough months with watching so many become angels, but she started her  battle when she was 28 and of all the loses, a young mother is the worst. I hope I never have to write another post like this. No one can understand how mean this disease is until they see how mean it can be first hand. Sadly, Joyce
I have already contacted the wall of courage.

Post Edited By Moderator (Admin) : 3/13/2006 7:38:12 PM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 2/14/2006 5:46 AM (GMT -7)   
My heart is breaking..Shelley was a fighter. I am so sorry that she lost her battle with this horrible disease. Yes Joyce, I remember those chats...LOL...we sure had alot of fun and so many laughs ! I remember when her dear daughter was thrilled she was...

Joyce, thanks for letting us know. I know how hard it is to have to post this sad news.

I love you my friend,

Sometimes it is a slender thread, Sometimes a strong,
stout rope; She clings to one end, I the other;
She calls it friendship; I call it hope....

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   Posted 2/14/2006 6:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello ladies.  I haven't posted in a very long time.  I was busy getting on with life after cancer. Pretty selfish of me, not to keep in touch with my breast friends. Hearing the news of Shelley's passing really brought me to a place I haven't had to be for a long time.  The pain of losing a loved one.  This is truly a sad day.  I hate cancer.  I hate it I hate it!!
Love, Glynne

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   Posted 2/14/2006 7:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Oh no...oh no, not SHells...I am so sad....she was a tremendous fighter with a great sense of humor who lost her battle wayyyyy too young. She was diagnosed on 9/11, said she watched it unfold from her hospital bed...such a sad loss for us all, especially Kalia. It makes me cry to think of the care she put into planning for her daughter's future, I can't imagine the courage it took to do that.

I hope that little girl can bring the life and light to the rest of the family as they grieve for SHells....she always said that Kalia was her replacement, and now it has come true.

Damm cancer.
Hugs for us all,

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   Posted 2/14/2006 7:41 AM (GMT -7)   

My heart is breaking just reading your post. I wish this da** disease would stop taking our angels at such an early age, or at any age. I will kepp her family and you in my prayers.


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   Posted 2/14/2006 7:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Oh Joyce....I remember Shells, from the iVillage days.   I rememeber congratulating her when she found she was pregnant.  I remember how upbeat, enthusiastic, and optimistic she always sounded (chocolate loss aside).  I lurk from time to time, but don't usually post...but I am so sad to hear this news that I have to. 
Shells' daughter was born not long before my own, and although she was much younger than me she is no longer here.  Its the pits. 
My thoughts are with her family, and I'm sending hugs to her friends... 

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   Posted 2/14/2006 7:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Oh Dear God, I did not expect to see news like this. And I really did not want to see it. Shelley was so beautiful inside and out and her Kalia is adorable. She was good to share pictures of their dear family. This is a very sad day. Lori is right we all need hugs today. Prayers for everyone, too. Love MK

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   Posted 2/14/2006 9:34 AM (GMT -7)   
Once again, my friends, another sister has been taken from us. It reminds us all how devastating this disease can be. And, it just keeps hitting women younger and younger.

Prayers for you, Joyce, and for Shells' family. Another name for Lest We Forget, and another name for our scroll. How very sad.

Love, Jo-Ann
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but a true friend will be sitting
next to you saying,
"Dâmn... that was fun!".

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   Posted 2/14/2006 11:10 AM (GMT -7)   
I remember Shells! This is awful! I hate it when we loose anyone, but the young mom's ......breaks my heart.
Hugs, Gail
  It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth -- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, we will then begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had.
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   Posted 2/14/2006 11:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Oh, no.  You know, I like to forget why we're on this site.  I like to just think of everyone as friends, forum buddies, but Every time this happens, I'm painfully reminded.  This feeling gets worse when I feel I knew her and she so young with a little one.  Those chats got me through that chemo and radiation!.  I remember when she talked of the baby, Matthew was 4 at the time.  I was afraid having another child would bring on a recurrance and remember how brave I thought she was to boldly bring another life into this one.  I remember her posting pictures, and the sisters going ga ga over Kalia.  I remember the chocolate, everything!!!
Her and her family are in my prayers.
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius


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   Posted 2/14/2006 11:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Oh Joyce! I remember Shelly, Kalia and the chocolate. I have had a really hard time posting here since Becky left us. This was a terrible shock. My heart breaks at the thought of all the lovely ladies, moms, daughters, and sisters we have lost to this dreaded disease. Sending hugs to all of you on this board, I usually check daily, just have trouble posting. I love you all and you are always in my thoughts and prayers. Sending prayers to Shelly's family. I hate cancer!

Sara Dearing
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   Posted 2/14/2006 12:10 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh no, not another one!  And so young!  I didn't have the priviledge of knowing her, but it saddens me all the same.  Every time I read these kinds of posts I cry.  I am so sad for her family.  They will be in my thoughts.  That was a courageous thing to do for her daughter. 
L & H,

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   Posted 2/14/2006 12:20 PM (GMT -7)   
My heart is breaking.
Joyce, thanks for letting us know this sad news.  My thoughts are with you, I know how close that you were to Shells.  
I am sending special "hugs" to all of you here, this news is so hard to hear.
She was so full of energy and life, and loved her family so much.
God Bless,
"What sweetness is left in life if you take away friendship? It is like robbing the world of the sun"

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   Posted 2/14/2006 4:43 PM (GMT -7)   

Shelley, Shelley, Shelley....

I can't stand reading news of this type.  It makes my heart hurt.  A little girl needs her mama and now she doesn't have her.  Not to mention Shelley's husband and her family.

Such a young, sweet girl has left us.

I just read on Dr. Susan Love's board that "we are at the beginning of the end of this disease."  Do you think that's really true??  I don't, not when I read about and follow journeys like Shelley's. I suppose we need to be optimistic but it's so darn hard when one of the statistics has a name and a story that I know well.

More later...Luci

In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me lay an invincible summer.  Albert Camus

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   Posted 2/15/2006 6:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Another loss. I am saddened and will have her, her family, her friends, the board and you Joyce in my prayers. I pray that you will never have to write another entry like this again.

You are all in my prayers,

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: if one falls down, his friend can help him up.  Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

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   Posted 2/15/2006 8:00 AM (GMT -7)   
After I read this, I grabbed my DD, and sat and cried. My heart and prayers go out to her family, and all of you who knew her.

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   Posted 2/15/2006 10:04 AM (GMT -7)   

I didn't have the privilege of knowing Shells but I can tell from reading the other posts what a remarkable young woman she was. The legacy that she left for her young daughter is one that she will help keep her mother alive and in her heart forever. It is so difficult to continue to fight this disease and read or know others that have lost their battle. I feel that the best way that we can honor these women that we have lost is to continue to fight this disease w/ our heads held high and their memories in our hearts. And not stop fighting until there is a cure!

Special hugs and prayers to each of you.



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   Posted 2/15/2006 3:36 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm so sorry to hear this even though I didn't know her. God bless her and her family. sad

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   Posted 2/16/2006 8:48 AM (GMT -7)   
For all of you that did not know Shells but took the time to post, I want to thank you so much. While more and more of us are survivors we have to take time to honor the ones that do not. For this I thank all of you that did not know her for taking the time to post. Claire so good to hear from you again, just so sorry it had to be for this reason. To all of Shells friends I know we share fond memories and the pain of lighting yet another candle on the wall of courage. Thanks again so very much to all of you. I plan on signing this and getting myself a piece of chocolate and sitting down and thinking about all the funny things that we shared.  Thanks again,Joyce

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   Posted 2/16/2006 11:33 AM (GMT -7)   
I didn't know her but wanted to send my condolences.  My heart broke reading this and having a daughter myself.  So sad.  sad

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   Posted 2/16/2006 2:48 PM (GMT -7)   

Here is the obit from that was posted on iVillage's breast cancer support board. My Lord, she was only 29. If you go to the type in Griggs where it asks for a last name and you will find the obit and a lovely picture of Shelly. This is so sad. Hugs, Lauri

"Kokomo resident Shelly Jean Griggs, 29, passed away Tuesday, Feb. 14, 2006, in her residence. She was born Oct. 11, 1976, a daughter of Fred and Wilma (Brewer) Williams. They survive. On Sept. 18, 1999, she married Keith Griggs in Kokomo, and he survives.

Shelly was a member of Church of God of the Union Assembly and loved spending time with good friends. She enjoyed taking pictures, talking and playing games. She liked traveling and really liked to eat.

She is survived by her husband of six years, Keith Griggs of Kokomo; one daughter, Kalia Griggs of Kokomo; her parents, Fred and Wilma Williams of Kokomo; a brother, Doug Williams of Kokomo, and an incredible friend, Katie Smidebush of Indianapolis.

Funeral services are scheduled for 10 a.m. Friday at Sunset Memory Garden Funeral Home, 2097 W. Alto Road, with the Rev. Donny Hughes officiating. Burial will follow in Sunset Memory Garden Cemetery. Friends may call at the funeral home from 4 to 8 p.m. today. Memorial contributions may be made to the Susan G. Komen Cancer Foundation. Envelopes will be available at the funeral home. Condolences may be offered online by visiting"

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   Posted 2/17/2006 6:21 PM (GMT -7)   
My condolences to Shelly's family. She was a warm and wonderful member of our board for quite a while. I can't imagine doing everything that she did to leave the legacy for her daughter. Very few people realize what this disease is doing. Maybe too much pink. That's not the way I view this disease. Another angel that we all needed here. Hugs, Di

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   Posted 2/18/2006 7:39 AM (GMT -7)   
When you go to read her obituary, it directs you to I hope each of you can go there and watch what they call the movie of her life. It's a slide show of beautfiul pictures of Shells from when she was a baby throughout her life.

While thinking of Shells this week, I have been praying for Keith and Kalia. Shells was about the age of my children -- much too young to leave behind a young daughter. She left behind a beautiful legacy for Kalia. May she know what a strong woman her mother was.


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   Posted 2/18/2006 3:36 PM (GMT -7)   
I just went to to watch the movie on Shelly.  It was beautiful.  What a wonderful way to memorialize someone.  I am so sad.
L & H,

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   Posted 2/18/2006 5:20 PM (GMT -7)   
Wow that movie was something. Shelley's eyes so beautiful. Little Kalia such a doll baby. So sad. Tears, MK

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