Hi Mary-Anne! Your friend is lucky to have someone like you in her corner. Something doesn't sound right to me either. Has she sought a 2nd opinion? If not, I would suggest doing so asap. I have heard of chemo being done before the surgery but I'm sorry to say that I don't understand why. I also can't imagine any surgeon doing a lumpectomy if there is that much tumor involvment. Please, please suggest to your friend that she get another opinion. Also a 3rd if necessary. If she has waited this long, the a couple of more days aren't going to hurt.
Keep the faith. BC today is a "manageable" disease, not a death sentence. The most important thing is to be proactive in your own health care and make sure that the treatment you are getting is right and the best.
Please keep us informed. Invite your friend to come and get some support from us.
In order to see the rainbow, you must first endure the rain!!!!