New to site, New to Breast Cancer, just found out. Anxiety has set in...

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Date Joined Mar 2006
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   Posted 3/23/2006 7:43 PM (GMT -7)   
I guess I just need someplace to vent. Don't really know what to expect. No one is my family has had breast cancer before. My mamo was suspious,they wanted more pics and a biopsy. Had to have a Image-Guided Biopsy. Answer came back DCIS which dr. said was good. She (Dr), told me she would talk to me next week, because anything she told me now I wouldn't hear. She was right. She explained a few things, gave me some pamplets and some web sites to check out. She explained to my husband that if she tried to explain anything to me, I probably wouldn't remember because of the shock. I know I will have to have surgery and I suppose radiation. I am just really scared, I guess because it is the "C" word.

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   Posted 3/23/2006 11:22 PM (GMT -7)   
And if you're really scared, that's all right. Everyone of us felt our throats close when we heard the news.

First, a family history of this disease accounts for only about 10% of b/c cases. There was no history of any cancer in my family either.

The next time you see the onc, have someone go with you and take either a tape recorder or pen and paper so you will have a record of what is discussed.

Above all, you will come through this and everyone here will be waiting to help. Venting is a perfectly wonderful thing to do. Once, I locked myself in my car and had a good primevil scream.

I'm glad you found us and sorry you have to be here. Let us know how we can help.

Hugs, Jo-Ann
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   Posted 3/24/2006 8:43 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi! I am so glad that you found us. This is a very wonderful group of women that will be there to support you as you begin this journey.

As Jo-Ann said, it is quite normal to be really scared. If you weren't, there would be something wrong. Hearing that you have cancer is the most frightening thing in the world. The one thing that I want you to remember is that bc is a disease that can be beat and it is also one that can be managed. Just be sure to find a surgeon and oncologist that will work together along w/ your other drs. And remember, they are there to work for YOU!

It sounds as though you have a very understanding dr. I would suggest that you write down any and all questions that you think of - no matter how silly they may sound. Then take them w/ you next week to your appointment. Also, as Jo-Ann said, take a small tape recorder w/ you as well as a family member or good friend. Having someone else in the room w/ you and your dr. will not only give you an "extra set of ears" but they will be able to write down the answers to your questions as well as other things that are said. Plus, you need the emotional support.

Feel free to come here and vent anytime. We have all done it. Don't be afraid to cry or scream or throw something. I also found the car was a safe place to yell and scream as well as the shower.

Hugs and prayers...Deb


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   Posted 3/24/2006 1:55 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm really glad you found us too.  This site was really really helpful to me when I went through treatment.  Whatever you encounter, someone either has also encountered it, is encountering it or knows someone with information about it.  The emotional support was especially important for me to have because I lived in a very rural area with little family support and had to be okay for my little one who was 3 at the time.  It was really rough, almost beat my husband to bits, and vented and vented and vented. 
Hope we can help you too.  I'll be thinking of you and remember to breathe!
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius


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   Posted 3/25/2006 7:37 AM (GMT -7)   
I have to comment on your doctor. From what you have written, I feel like she deserves a special medal!!! Knowing that you would not remember what she told you, she gave you time to settle in with the diagnosis and read about it before you have your discussion with her. She sounds like a very understanding, caring doctor. You came to the right place to hear real stories of personal experiences. We are all ages here, if you have not seen the Roll Call above I suggest you run through it and familiarize yourself with some of us. We will try to help you go through whatever treatment you do. We were all scared to death when we first learned of the possibility of breast cancer, so we understand what you are feeling now. I often say "don't worry until you know what you have to worry about!" Worrying needlessly does not help you. Take a deep breath and start on a list of questions for the doctor. Be sure to take someone with you, a second set of ears helps. Hugs, Mary K. (MK)

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Date Joined Mar 2006
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   Posted 3/25/2006 4:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for your replies. Will let you know what I find out.
Hugs, Sandy

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Date Joined Jun 2005
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   Posted 3/28/2006 4:08 PM (GMT -7)   
You have come to a great place. I too didn't hear anything past the word "cancer" when my surgeon told me I had it. I had to go back the next week to talk to her again, to ask questions etc.. There's no history of breast cancer in my family either. You have come to a great place. My Onc said don't believe everything you read on boards you may find. I think this may be the first one I came across and thought it was great. You're chatting with women who have gone or are going through this right now. I am 3 months out of chemo as of tomorrow. Vent as much as you need to. Everyone hear listens.

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Date Joined Jun 2005
Total Posts : 349
   Posted 3/28/2006 4:23 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello, Sandy, welcome to the "Sisterhood" that no one really wants to be a part of. I do not know how you found this site -- as a matter of fact, I do not remember how I found it -- but these ladies are great here. There are many women and there are many experiences here. Someone here has been through almost anything. Write down questions, ask them of the doctor or us or both.

These are wonderful women here - they walked with me through this and we will walk with you.

God Bless you and your family.
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