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Date Joined Mar 2006
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   Posted 3/28/2006 12:18 PM (GMT -7)   
A few hours ago, I got "the call", and I have breast cancer.  I wasn't in the frame of mind to ask a lot of questions.  What I do know is that the pathology report showed both in situ and invasive.  I have an appointment next Tuesday at 5:30 (my surgeon's on vacation this week) to go over everything.  They've also said I can come in anytime this week if I need to talk.
Looks like you guys are stuck with me for awhile.

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Date Joined Jul 2003
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   Posted 3/28/2006 12:38 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh Pam, I am so sorry to hear this news...your frame of mind sounds about right. For me, the week after diagnosis and before the surgeon appointment for path report review was the worst....lots of questions and unknown answers. My advice....cry and yell and know that you may feel pretty overwhelmed and is normal. Take charge of what you can...which means your attitude, surroundings and getting information. Read what you can so you'll be in a better position to discuss with the doctors..and to understand what they say. Write a list of questions, but don't worry about writing the answers. Take a tape recorder to the appointment along with a friend and allow yourself to listen to it later, when you can stop and pause and take notes. Just my'll get a lot of it, just remember that it is advice and not law.

In the mean time, hang in there,...and keep in mind that breast cancer, when caught early, has excellent survival rates! And remember too that we're here for ya.


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   Posted 3/28/2006 1:22 PM (GMT -7)   
I am so sorry to see this. The dreaded call!....I live in hope that the day comes that not one more woman will ever get that call. I am so relieved to see how well you are dealing with this. Thats the best start you can give yourself. Hugs, Joyce
How wonderful it would be to see Angels where there are only clouds. How sad it would be to see clouds where there are Angels.

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   Posted 3/28/2006 1:44 PM (GMT -7)   
A Phone Call.  I never considered that some of us get phone calls instead of face-to-face diagnoses.  I hope you weren't alone and scared when you found out.  I'm very glad you posted as soon as you did.  That must have felt horrible. 
So many people react in so many different ways.  I went to Cape Cod the week after I found out, thinking that it was a good idea to go on my previously planned vacation to "get ready" for what was coming.  My surgeon happened to be leaving for Japan the day after my diagnostic appointment, so I relate to you.  I waited for him because he was and is the best for me.   I wound up going through a whole process of feelings about it on the Cape.  From denial to information-seeking to support-seeking.  Probably should have kept busy instead of going.  I had way way way too much time to think.  This site was the best, though.  I really needed and valued the support, considering I married a neanderthall.
OK, enough about me.  There are a few things you'll want to know about your cancer when you talk to your surgeon.  Right now All I can think of is that you'll probably want to know the size of the lump.  There's other information in Dr. Susan Love's Breast Book.  When you're ready, buy it.  FYI:  I spent way way way too much time in the breast cancer aisle of the book store.  I did a whole process there.  Don't know if I recommend looking through all the titles, it was too much, looking back.  Dr. Love wrote up everything you want to know so it's right at your fingertips.
Keep on Posting!!!!!!!  This place is the best
My prayers are with you.

"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius


Post Edited (coopfesta) : 3/28/2006 1:57:30 PM (GMT-7)

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Date Joined Mar 2005
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   Posted 3/28/2006 2:28 PM (GMT -7)   

I'm just about one year out from my initial lumpectomy and also received the call - while I was alone and while my husband was out of town. Like you, I had both an invasive tumor and DCIS, dx at age 40. I'm sorry you had to join this site. We're all here for you, and while you wait, we'll be here for any questions or support. Please hang in there!!!

The finger of God touches your life when you make a friend.
----Mary Dawson Hughes---

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Date Joined Jul 2003
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   Posted 3/28/2006 4:56 PM (GMT -7)   

I also got a call.  Hope you had someone with you.  It is very important that someone be with you when you go for all your appointments.  Also take a tape recorder and take notes.  Ask for copies all your pathology reports too. 

Most of all, please keep writing to us.  We are here for you.  These women are the best "breast friends".  You will make it through this and we will be with you every step of the way leaving pink feathers in our stead. Stay strong.


Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: if one falls down, his friend can help him up.  Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

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Date Joined Aug 2005
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   Posted 3/28/2006 6:28 PM (GMT -7)   
Pam - I just want you to know that the women here at this site are the best, most supportive group you could wish for. I spent the months after my diagnosis reading just about anything I could get my hands on. It helped for a while, but i overdid it, and got so lost in "cancer stuff" that I had a mini-identity crisis. Just know that we will be here with you for every step. Rant, rave, cry or do whatever you need to get through this. We will be here.

There are no wrong turnings, only paths we did not know we were meant to take - Guy Gavriel Kay

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   Posted 3/29/2006 6:32 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello Pam! Big hugs to you today. I know that you are feeling very frightened, confused, angry and every other emotion that one can imagine. That is normal. Trust us when we say that you will run the gambit of all emotions during this journey. The ladies have given you some very great advice. Write down all of the questions that you might have (no matter how silly or small they may seem) and take them w/ you to your appt. The tape recorder is one of the best ideas. You will be given so much info and, as each of us can attest, you will remember little of what you are told. The most important thing is to take one or two people w/ you that you are comfortable around and that you can talk to later. They will be able to remember more of what is said than you.
This next week will probably be one of the longest weeks of your life. You will be given lots of information to read. Dr. Love's book is the best. I found that if I kept busy that I was able to keep the fact that I had been told I had bc in the back of my mind. Do some retail therapy! Also, watch tv shows and/or movies that are funny. Laughter is a great healer and stress reliever.
Allow yourself to yell, cry, scream, etc. But also allow yourself the luxury of time to yourself. The phone calls and visits from friends may be overwhelming at times. Don't be afraid to tell people that you don't feel like talking or that you are tired. Remember, this is about YOU, not them.
Keep coming here. We will be here to hold your hand and give you lots of hugs and support.
Prayers and love...Deb

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